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writes:My boyfriend about to be husband has no libido, least this is what he says. If I preform oral sex on him he can get an erection and or a hand-job, and on occassion he can get hard and have intercourse. I am convinced that he is just no that into me. He refuses to preform oral sex on me he says none of his other women desired it.He uses his high blood pressure medicine as an excuse. Hi last girlfriend of 4 years, he says did not believe in pre-marital intercouse. They would please each other thru vibrators and oral sex (him only. However, she had 5 boy friends during this entire time and yet talk marriage with mine. I know they are still talking yet he says he loves and wants to marry me. My question is do you think it is libido, or his hang-up's, not into me, or medication. Or is he just selfish, self-centered and I am about to make a big mistake by getting married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): I think you should stop giving your bf handjobs and blowjobs! he obviously doesnt like giving oral sex to girls because they dont smell to good!=p but if your really that into it make him give you one first before he gets one... who cares if he gets upset or brakes up with you, must have not been that great of a bf anyway if that happens!!! and you should just wait and see how it works out before you go off and marry this guy!!! dont hurry into it.... if your really in love you got enough time before having to get married!!!.... =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): Hunny you dont say how old your future husband is? but from what you have said his ex had 5 boyfriends at the same time, So the not believing in pre-marital intercourse seems to me a little far fetched... I assume they were that kind of boyfriends not just mates? Now you say they would please each other thru vibrators and oral sex and i take it he was the only one to get the oral pleasure...
He is the one with the high blood pressure , High blood pressure varies among inderviduals and normaly increases with age, if a persons blood pressure is higher than normal on at least 3 occations a doctor may diagnose hypertension. blood pressure can also be raised as a result of an underlying disorder, usually though it is not possible to find a cause. This condition is called essential hypertension, Although hypertension is usually without symtoms severely raised pressure may produce headaches and palpatations and just a feeling of unwell, Now the medication that would be given go from ACE inhibitors. Beta blockers. and the list goes on what im trying to say is that when a man gets an errection in some cases it can start the heart pumping alot. when we get sexually stimulated the whole boby works itself up for one almighty orgasam so if it is just your man who likes to get worked up to exploding point then it doesnt make much sense as he is the one with the problem not you sweetheart. Yes he may get tired having full on rampant sex but your not asking him to jump from the wardrobe and take you ... his refusal to give you what you desire after you please him is in my eyes selfish, there is never one person in a relationship a good healthy sexual relationship is based on both partners happiness.. And you my darling are not. if his ex did have 5 boyfriends while they were together and it was for sexual reasons then she wasnt happy either, I do take it though that she didnt have them all at once cause thats abit much to say the least... So it may be his libido some of the time but thats no excuse not to please you as he likes to be pleasured. As for him not being into you, you dont say what the relationship is like other than the sexual side.. Is he attentive towards you does he make you feel special in other ways? the medication may and i say may have a role to play you dont say what he is on love so its hard to tell my love, To get to the final part of your question, if you are now asking if your about to make the biggest mistake by getting married then ask yourself do you love him? are you deeply inlove with him? In other areas of your life together does he make you happy and content as in my eyes sex yes is an important part of a ralationship but its not the be all and end all as long as you both understand each others likes and dislikes are there for each other and the most important of all i think is that you are friends, my fiance and i are best friends i have had 3 nasty marraiges ( i never no if i spell it right after 3 you would think id be an expert eh!) And im 45 this yr its taken me to go through been beaten to be very much more beaten to be cheated on to find happiness and my love i do hope you find yours much love to you and good luck xxxx
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