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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am moving to another country in two weeks to finish high school (a year and a half). My boyfriend and I agreed to keep the relationship during that time, but I just found out they are opening the perfect university for me in London next year and I really want to get in, the course lasts one year, so that sums up to two years and a half barely seeing each other.I would ask him to move with me, but he is in college and still has three years left.I have been with my boyfriend for one and a half years and we love each other very much. He comes over daily and the magic there was when we were staring up the relationship is still going on.I love him but my dream since I was twelve years old has been to travel and live in lots of different cities. I am deeply in love with this guy though, and I know he feels the same way about me too.I am unsure whether I should end the relationship or not.Sometimes I feel like being free from any relationship would be a great thing for me, being able to leave behind everything without having to feel heart-broken would be a good thing. But I think about leaving him, him finding another girl, etc and my stomach literally hurts.On the other hand, I too think we could work it out and if we get past those three years apart (of course we will make an effort to visit each other every now and again), and by the end of those three years, if we are still together, we could be together again.I do realize a lot of things could happen, he could find someone while I am away and leave me, he could decide having a long-distance relationship is too hard, etc. I am scared that will happen and I know the odds of it ocurring are bigger than of them not occurring. So, what's your opinion? I am young and unexperienced so I would love knowing what older people think about this. Do you think I should end the relationship NOW or try and give it a go and see what happens? Thank you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 I think that as young as you are that it's probably a good idea to end the romance part of this relationship. if you are supposed to be together later on you will both know it and pick up later.
if you aren't and you stay together one of you may cheat and that will make both of you feel bad.
three years at your age is a lifetime...
part with sweet wonderful memories and stay friends....
but make a rule not to talk to each other about who else you are dating unless one of you gets serious with someone else...
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