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female
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30-35,
*odaii
writes:I feel really guilty.2 months ago I was in a long distance relationship with a guy who claimed he loved me. The problem was I hadn't seen him for a long long time and I cant fall in love with someone over such a long distance. I really liked him but after he proposed to me, he started freaking me out, talking about moving to England (he's American), getting a job, what sort of flat we coul buy and even our future children's names. I got really freaked out, im only 15 and i don't love him. One day i was at my best friends house (btw im bi and really fancied my best friend, who is also bi, but not out yet) and i was talking to him on msn and he was scaring me again with talk of transferring his bank accounts. My friend started talking to him saying stuff like "stop scaring her anyway she cant love you shes a lesbian and my girlfriend". he took her seriously and i didnt stop her writing more stuff along the same lines, cos i was glad to get out of the relationship. But, according to my other friend who hes good mates with, i broke his heart and he can never forgive me.so now its a few months later and im still haunted by the guilt. He keeps slagging off my best friend to my other friend, saying horrible stuff cos he really believes we are girlfriends. it really hurts me that he thinks all this stuff of her when its not true that we're going out (i wish it wer true though). but it hurts me that he hasnt let go and that he thinks so bad of her when she is truly such a good person. I cant sort it out with him because he wont answer his phone, ignores my texts, emails, youtube comments and any other way i try to contact him, plus hes blocke me on msn. theres no way i can get him to reply to me. i want to sort it out but i cant. what can i do to get him to forgive me? and also, do you think i ever have a chance with her being my real girlfriend?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 April 2009):
 ouch that is harsh!!first of all that guy is probably not whom he said he was asking to marry you move to england and tranfer bank accounts!you were right in saying you can't love someone so far away.and he's just saying these things because he's clearly jealous that you got out while you could!and i think you probably do have a chance with your friend she clearly protects you when you need it.talk to her about it see what happens.as for the guy good on you!he seemed a bit freaky he shouldn't be asking such things from a young girl.
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