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writes:I have been seeing this guy i met online, We have been talking online and on the phone for 3 months now. The last 3 weekends we have seen each other and gone out...after the first date i still had the impression that he was still keen as he would make an effort to speak to me and has been the one to organise another night for us to go out. So we made plans to go to the moonlight cinemas...my idea as i thought it would be a good place for us to snuugle up and talk. But he didnt make a move to cuddle me during the night or kiss me goodnight..apart from on the cheek. He walked me too my car and said goodnight, kissed me on my cheek and went to his car. Then we were talking online and flirting abd joking around, He said maybe we can catch up again next weekend as he has his daughter that weekend also. So He wants to do the home thing at his house and cook me dinner which i thought was cute. He lives an hours drive away so do you think he wants me to sleep over (which i dont mind) and does the above show that hes keen on me or not...sometimes i just dont know about how he feels about me. I need a opinions..im new to this dating thing and he has recently seperated from his wife..its been like 8 months since they have seperated. I hope tjis is making sence to you all..lol
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reader, FizzyPop  +, writes (27 January 2009):
 Yes, it made sense.After being in a long term relationship everyone wants to take the next one one step at a time.You say he has a daughter? So he obviously has a little person to consider as well as his own feelings. Think it's nice to hear about a guy not wanting to jump into bed on first date, not many of his sort about. If you get on well then go with the flow and what's the rush? Get to know him whilst having cooked meals together's, night's out at cinema, the odd snuggle up close and warm. To me this is romantic, whilst he slowly in his own way gets to know you. Lot's of women are after this kind of guy - so if you like what you so far seetake his one steps slowly.Communication is very important in any relationshipThe key is communicate early on save's any misunderstanding's laterAsk him when your alone, how he feel's about you and does he eventually in time when he's ready want more or just want's a very good friend from you?Having his daughter there he may not want you to sleep over.just yet - Or embarrassed to ask to stay over in case he offend's. Take your PJ's and toothbrush - Can always use it to clean teeth after meal before you snuggle up close... Good Luck!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 It's hard to tell if he wants you to stay over night or not. ( if it's something you want make sure you pack some stuff that you might need - makeup remover - tooth brush condoms whatnot, just in case - but don't bring a HUGE overnight bag.) I think it's kinda nice that he wants to cook you dinner at his own house, I think that shows that he wants you to see him in his environment.
Take it slow, that is my advice. Take your time to get to know him. It's always easier to flirt in a text/IM/email then it is in "real" life for some people so let him move at his pace. He obviously wants you to know him and want to get to know you.
He's recently divorced so I'm also pretty sure that he wants to take it faily slow so that he gets to know you better. After all if the two of you become an item you will be involved in his daughters life.
I'm pretty sure if he wants you to stay there overnight he will tell you. :) I wouldn't assume it though. He seems to be looking for a partner, not a shag.
Good luck and enjoy the date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): You're both quite new to dating again so don't be too hard on him for sending mixed signals - he's probably not sure what you want and may be wary of scaring you off. He walked you to your car and instigated further contact which shows he cares, is thoughtful of others, isn't after just one thing and yes - does like you! It sounds like he's worth putting up with a few communication teething problems as it seems these are due to genuine nerves.
If you'd be happy to stay, why not jokingly ask if you'll need your pj's for sleeping on his sofa? If he walks you to your car he cares about your safety and probably wouldn't expect you to drive an hour home at the end of the night. That way you'll at least know whether you're staying at his house. If things then go further and you're happy with this, great, if they don't then at least you know you can stay with no awkwardness, and there's no assumption that you'll be having sex. Have fun, he sounds like a good guy who really likes you, these are hard to find!
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