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writes:hiya .. i have been with me boyfriend nearly 7 months now and everything was going perfect i havnt slept with him yet but last friday i at slept his house and was too drunk to do anything with him .. the next day i got a text of him saying i dont think this is going to work babe .. so i text back saying why not and hes said because i just dont think its going to work it doesnt feel right .. but we was talking the other day about if we had sex .. i dont want anyone to find out so i told him i would trust him to keep it to hiself .. anyway we still havnt had sex and we have sorted it out but do you think he only wants me for one thing because now it doesnt feel right to me ??
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reader, L VIC  +, writes (24 September 2008):
all i can tell you is that my girlfriend and I made love after 6 months relationship she was a virgen now we have 4 years going out and probably going to marry her the best advise i can give you is dont give it to him if your not ready for it
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): I waited a whole year before me and my first boyfriend did have sex. And guess what- it wasnt worth it still. He did go on about it at first, and then left it for a long time, and eventually, I thought i was mean by making him wait a year, but after it happened, we decided that it would have been best to just wait. Dont let him pressure you. He should respect you, and i guess he already has by waiting for 7months already. Be honest with him and just say you want to wait, so it will be the best experience for you both
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): My now husband waited eight months before we had sex, and he probably would've waited more. I agree with the first responder. Don't give it up, and see if he sticks around. Test him, by saying things like "I am thinking of waiting until marriage to have sex." See what his response is.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (22 September 2008):
 He's waited 7 months to sleep with you, and you wonder if he'sonly after 1 thing? It doesn't sound like it to me. He might be thinking your drinking bothers him, or he might be thinking its never going to happen. If we are in long term relationships, its normal to want to make love, unless there are religious reasons. But obviously if you dont want to, you have every right to say no, and he has a right to decide if he wants to stick around. Cuts both ways.
You deserve an explanation on this though and why he 'doesn't think this is going to work'
Only then will you have your answer.
C xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): I could be wrong, but are you not the same question asker in this other question, asked only this morning, which is virtually identical?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-have-sex-with-him-just-to.html
Either way, I think the answers to the previous question apply equally here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. It doesn't sound like you ready to have sex with this guy anyway. You shouldn't feel pressured to have sex with someone or worried that they are going to tell people. Try taking sex completely off the table and see if he sticks around.
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