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writes:I have known this lad for 5 months.. it doesnt seem that long but it feels like it's been forever .. the other night we was sat in his house and we was having a drink and just talking and having a little kiss and that .. but he stopped and i was sat down, and he come over to me and just went on his knee's on the floor and he made me look him in the eyes and he told me he loves me .. and he was trying to do everything to prove that he did. I dont know if i should believe him because its only 5 month.. im only 15 but i am very mature for my age and he is 17 .. but then the next night he text me saying do you think we will be doing more than just having a kiss soon.. i havnt slept with anyone before.. but he doesnt know that and i am nervous about it but i feel that if i dont sleep with him i will lose him and dont want that to happen .. so basicly my question is do you think he means it and do you think i should sleep with him ?? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for your answers xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 September 2008):
He might love you but asking for sex by text is not exactly romantic and loving.
You should never feel that you HAVE to do something or risk losing them. If he loved you at all then he would never leave you just because you want to wait to give away your first time.
You can do an awful lot more than kissing with out having sex. If you are ready to do a little bit more then ok, but it is up to you.
Don't reply and if he brings it up then say it just seemed that he seemed to want it straight away after saying he loved you and that made you worry he didn't mean it.
Make him wait.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, claireleatherdale +, writes (9 September 2008):
 DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM not until ur ready don't do it 2 keep him do it because it feels right tell him ur nervous and a virgin because although ur mature 4 ur age hiding ur worries can lead u into alot of trouble and u only learn that when ur older in years not in mind and not 2 mention you only lose ur virginty once don't waste it on a i did it 2 keep him never regret anything and start by keeping ur knickers on until ur ready if u want 2 move the relationship on from just kissing try oral as long as u feel ok with it of course and then see how u feel about this lad good luck xxx
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (9 September 2008):
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What a rude thing to say if you ask me and on a cell phone! ...
The first time I did it was with my ex (her first time too). We were together for about a year and a half before doing it (been doing foreplay for a while though, and that too ... just happened). I didn't just ask her to, it just happened. It was the time, sooner was too soon, later was too late.
She thank me to have waited for her without ever mentioning it. It wasn't sex, it was love that I gave her that night.
I just couldn't do it with someone if the only reason why she's doing it is for me. It should never be forced and only be done when both feel like it.
(This is just to give you an idea of how it happened for someone else, maybe it's going to help you decide how you want it to happen to you.)
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Telling you I love you, and texting you for sex soon after ... just plan weird. It's like telling you "You know that I love you, what are you waiting for to have sex with me?"
If he does love you, he'll wait until the time is right.
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