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writes:this is a relatively long question/story, just warning you. In December of last year, I started visiting a chatroom especially for the iPod touch. I was pretty bored, telling people I was 17, and I'm 14 was 13 then. I did not have pics, since I wasn't 17 and pics of me wouldn't make sense since I'm 13/14. So I started talking to this one guy, and we got to know eachother, he was 16. He was a pretty cool person, and he liked me too. We exchanged usernames for Nimbuzz (a seperate IM service/application thing). After a few months or so, he started hinting that he liked me. At this point he still thought I was 17. In May of 2009 he asked me out. Me, not thinking it would go anywhere, said yes. So we went out for 5 months or so. In that period of time, I had given him pics of a friends older sister, who is EXTREMELY pretty, and made him think it was me. Well eventually he found out that I was 14. He was really broken but he said that age didn't matter, and we continued going out. Well, for my birthday(October), I was allowed to get a facebook. And yes, my parents are relatively strict and would not be okay with me talking to people online like that. He requested that I change my relationship status to In a relationship with him. Well, my parents were snooping around my facebook one day, and saw it. Well they freaked out and I wasn't allowed on the computer for a very long period of time, nor was I allowed to talk to him anymore. I was devastated. I followed they're punishments for a few months, although it was really hard not talking to someone I really had feelings for. He finally sent me a message on facebook that said something like, "So I guess we aren't together anymore. I'm sure well be great friends if you would talk to me." This broke my heart. I started talking to him again gradually. He seemed fine up untill recently. Recently, it just seems like he hates me, and doesn't even want me in his life. But then other times, he'll flirt with me. I'm really confused, and don't know what to do. I need to know what I should say to him, or what I should do. I realize alot of the decisions I made were extremely stupid, but now I have no idea what to do.
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reader, Aida +, writes (30 December 2009):
 Maybe it's best that you just remain friends anyway if that's even possible at this point. Sure you can explain to him that your parents grounded you and that's why you couldn't get online to talk to him but that doesn't seem to be the only issue. Your whole so called 'relationship' is based on lies. He still doesn't even know what you look like since you've been using a picture of someone else. So now he's got this image in his head of what he thinks you look like and that's the image he's fallen in love with and it's not even real. Stop leading him on and just tell the truth, about everything. He might not want to talk to you and maybe that's for the best. Hell for all you know he could have been lying this whole time too. He could be much older than 17. The point im trying to make is that you never really know. People will make up stories and tell you anything online but you never really know someone until you've met them and actually spend real time with them. And besides you're much too young to be dating anyway. You should be hanging out with your friends and concentrating on school. Trust me there will be plenty of guys for you to date when you get older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): it seems like ya'll haven't even met before?
if not, then it's kind of ridiculous that ya'll are having a "relationship"
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): have u talked to him about how strict ur parents are? have u told him about wot happened? id tell him if u havnt however hes a guy and some of the read one thing and take it to mean another. once uve told him ask him if hes understood and tell him u felt wen u were banned from the internet. im sure he will come round eventually but going from alot of contact with u to none wot so ever for a few months wud have been really hard on him. if he cant forgive wot happened then maybe ul have to learn to move on but i wish for the best for u both... good luck xx
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