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anonymous
writes:Is it wrong for my boyfriend to deliberately want to hurt me? Last week we had a row cos i'd asked him to go out but he said he was too tired only to find out that at 11pm he was heading out with his mates. I felt hurt and argued with him and he hung up on me. I sent text that maybe he should go find a girl who would put up with being treated like dirt cos it wouldn't be me and he replied he would!Then after making up the next weekend he decided to try and have a fight with me only i'm always nice and could have treated him the same and hung up on him but i reasoned with him that i was always there etc. When we spoke next day i asked him why he'd treated me the way he did - he said he was trying to let me see how it felt the way i'd treated him the previous week. Only both times it was me ended up in tears and hurt most. I don't think you'd do this on someone you love ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): I don't think it was a reason of quarrel that he went out with his boyfriends UNLESS it happens often to give others priority in your detriment. If it was a solitary case he may have felt misunderstood, but then again you say he tried to "pay" with the same coin. Unfortunately, relationships aren't about payback, banks are. That's immature that he wanted to treat you as you have instead of talking openly about what disturbed him and how to mend the situation. Advice, don't reproach, when he does something you don't agree with. Ask him why, calmly. And if you can't reach a compromise and decide it's the last straw, you're in your right...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): No, you wouldn't act that like that toward someone you really cared about.I think his behavior speaks for itself.Now, what you do about it is up to you.......
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