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writes:Is it fairly universally accepted that to get serious with someone you're dating, you need to have a conversation with each other and agree to it? I'm assuming that's the case, but sometimes I get the feeling that the man I'm seeing might be thinking things are getting serious, especially when he starts looking at me with his beautiful puppy dog adoring eyes and thinks that everything I say is hilarious. He's a really sweet guy but we've only been seeing each other for about a month, after knowing each other for 2-3. I'm also feeling a bit disillusioned at the moment and I think I might find it hard to trust again - I split up with my ex about 8 months ago after a 2 year relationship. We were friends for a year first, and towards the end of our relationship I found out all this horrible stuff he'd lied to me about and I felt like even after thinking we were so close for 3 years, I actually didn't know him at all. I know I'm ready to move on, but I don't know if I'm ready to get more serious with this guy when I don't feel like I know him that well yet.
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 I agree with quirklady, it's only been a month and that's not a very long time. There's no need to have a talk about becoming serious just yet, it's early days and you're still getting to know each other right? If you discover you both really like each other and want to get serious further down the line, tell him about your trust issues and work through them together. Good luck x
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 I think that a talk like that is a great idea and ensures that you are on the same page. However, if you're not ready for that talk - and it has only been a month which is not long at all - then don't have it. He sounds like he really likes you and enjoys spending time with you, but until he actually says "let's be serious," don't rush into anything.
Good luck.
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