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writes:Hello everyone,So I posted a while back and I got great responses. So there is a guy that I really like, and I think he likes me too, but my biggest concern is that he rarely is the one to call me. I don't call him too often (maybe once every other day), but I've seen a major change in our relationship. We met about two months ago, and on our first date we made out. Second date, he told me that he has been doing some thinking and thinks we should just be friends for now because he is trying to balance his life with a new shop he just opened and his family. No making out on this date. So I sent him a message saying that although I do agree that being friends at the moment is a good thing, I am not opposed to seeing where it might lead to. And his response was: think you are a very wise man. I am excited for our future and what will be to come. I think that is a great plan. I would like to get to know you in our mature state and you me as well... There are all kinds of fun things ahead... Im sure. I look forward to talking soon. Keep up that thought process Cole - This will not pass. So our third date came around, and we went to a jacuzzi and made out.Another time I saw him he gave me a kiss when I walked into his apartment.Our fourth date the clothes came off, and we spent a solid two hours hooking up, and then took a shower. He kissed me goodbye. He invited me to an event his store put on, and I got a little too drunk and stayed the night along with one of his coworkers (a girl). Nothing happened because she was on the couch too, but we did cuddle for a little bit until he moved because he felt like he was crushing me.Our fifth date, the night after I stayed the night at his place, we went to see a show in LA and we both took ecstasy. He was giving me back massages, we were making out, and we had a great conversation. I told him I really liked him, and if I can remember I think he said the same thing to me. Also every time we wanted to do something, he told me to lead the way, and we would hold hands. I also was dancing and he was sitting on the floor smiling at me, and I got closer to him and he took my hand, pulled me down and we started to make out.But this worried me because I wasn't sure if it was him speaking or if it was the drug. Then we went back to my place and stayed the night, and cuddled. He was really tired the next day and he wasn't feeling so smashing, so we barely spoke because he slept in the car. It sort of worried me, but he did kiss me goodbye. I checked facebook the day after I stayed the night at his place drunk, and his status said, "love grows... I love you." I'm not going to read into this at all, but it makes me wonder if it is about me. Lastly, the one thing that makes me wonder if he really likes me is why he doesn't ever call me. He does on occasion, but not often. He is really busy with the opening of his new store, and moving into a new apartment, but I also wonder if it is because he is nervous/doesn't wanna appear to be clingy? A few questions:Do you guys think he likes me? How do I go about asking him to make this into a steady relationship, since it has been like two months?
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 maybe its not because he doesn't want to appear clingy, maybe he just ISN'T clingy.
things sound like they are going well, ecstacy can make you feel you love someone artificially and that is something to remember. stay positive as things are looking excellent.
try and see how he feels after a glass of wine or two over dinner, and you might get a more accurate appraisal.
good luck though you sound like you have that already
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 I see this is a relationship between to males. So, you know how we males think. His saying that "he wants to balance..." was his way to say "Nah, I'm not that much into you". I'm afraid that he is taking you because you let him do it, but, if you insist on a relationship, you will not have any.
Sorry.
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