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writes:I'll try 2 make this short! Basically I am a lesbian and always have been. I have never been confused about my sexuality, I love women. The thing is that my best friend, who is male, has been in love with me for many years now. We are great together, we always have such an amazing time and I trust this guy with my whole life. I am happiest when I am with him. We click on so many different levels, we spend so much time together and I always miss him whenever he's not with me. The thing is, we would work as a great couple, other than the fact that I just can't be physically attracted to him, that is the only thing getting in the way. I find it difficult to believe that I will ever find anyone else who I click with as well as him. We have known each other for a long time now, and I would love to be with him in theory, I just couldn't physically sleep with him. I guess my question is, do you guys believe there is any way to change what sex you are physically attracted to?Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the replies, always interesting to hear other peoples opinions :) I haven't had sex with him no. I've never slept with a man either. If you're about to say 'how do you know you won't like it?' - the idea doesn't do anything for me so therefore I know I wouldn't enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): have you tried sex with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): You are young. You will meet a woman who you will fall in love with. You cannot change who you are.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 June 2010):
 I will say yes. But, I have to add that you are too young to start thinking you will "never" meet someone like him in a female version.
You two don't match up. You are not physically attracted to him. So no he is not perfect for you.
As for the original question, can you change what you are attracted to? I think so, but I think for that you happen you have to be a person who is highly attracted to personality above physical attraction. You have to be a person who is able to fall in love with someone they have never seen, and who accepts all physical aspects of another and loving it just because you love them as a person.
Now, I have the advantage of being a bisexual who appreciates a good personality over physics, so I am more likely to adapt. But it works for me. I love all sorts as long as they are great people. Sort of like the cliché: finding beauty within.
Now, the question is that we have always wondered, are people born with these preferences or lack of preferences, or are we able to influence it? I'll leave that up to you to decide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): In a short answer, NO. You are what you are, it's exactly the same for straight people, you can't tell your body to fancy someone that you're head likes !
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