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writes:so... do you guys believe on those love stories like Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big, when they were in a relationship, break up then they both mess around, to then been in different relationships, even a marriage, all for this to end on them together? ha. Do you think this is possible? I always thought that you would be the last love for The One for you, however, I have heard other stories, real stories, not just tv novels, when you love so much someone, but it's not your time together yet, then both of you go different ways, different relationship, for at the end reunied together and forever again. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): WOW loved your story, thank you so much for sharing that with me. I'm speding a life time trying to understand what love means, it's rules and how it suppose to happen. So far I feel like I fell in love about 3 times in my life, where I felt like I would give my life for them, or at least anything possible to make them smile. but for some reason I always have the feeling that they could find someone better and it really sucks. My dad left me when I was a child too, althought we keep in touch and he loves me, but I grew up without him, and it was hard. I will try to enjoy love when I have it and it comes to me.Thank you so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): Every thing you can imagine has happened with people who are in love, want to be in love, and trying to get their needs met in life.We don't all get off on the same foot, read about abuse and neglect and stress and depression and all the other things that can happen to someone, and then realize that "love" is psychological state that people experience, and we don't all get to start working on it at the same point in our minds.Yesterday, my wife told me, unsolicited, "I love you like crazy, I hope you realize that.".My wife met me, fell in love with me rapidly, likewise for me but I was more guarded and cautious and we'd both been married before and it had ended badly for both of us. Yet after three months I told her that I wanted to ask her to marry me, there was no question that I was fully taken for the first time in years. I gave her a small gift, a gold bracelet, and she had tears in her eyes, she told me that nobody, not even her first husband, had ever given her a gift like that. Should have been a warning, I suppose, I was surprised to say the least (it wasn't even that expensive but was what I could afford and was very nice to wear). She never took that bracelet off, wore it nonstop for years till the clasp broke and it just was gone one day, disappeared. A few years later she almost left me, didn't think I cared for her, thought I would leave her with the kids (I never thought that...furthest thing from my mind and I simply could not understand what she was talking about when we talked about our relationship).She didn't know, didn't believe, no matter what I said, that she was "The One and Only". Yet, she was, and is.Childhood abandonment issues, neglect, abuse, and adult abuse and neglect and maltreatment, caused her to have a fixed belief that she was never good enough to be "The One and Only" for anyone. She'd see a tall sexy blond younger woman and think "he'd rather be with her".But, today, she knows. She knows the effort I've made to understand, the tenacity I had for the relationship, the steadfastness as she dealt with issues she struggled with. She knows the depth of the love, and what love means. She told me last year, that it was only with me, and only in the last 2-4 years, that she has begun to understand what love really means. Being abandoned by her mother, and father, and left adrift at a young age, made her think that this is what people do to those that they love, and made her expect that I would do the same to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): It happens I think when people get older and kind of settling.
More out of looking for comfort, not love and passion.
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