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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am a divorced woman that has been dating a divorced man for the last 3 months. We live a couple of hours drive apart, but have been spending our weekends together and text ot call each other every day. He seemed to like me very much all along, but started to become a bit "distant" last weekend. I spoke to him about it in a non-confrontational way, to which he responded very maturely. He said that he is feeling scared, because he remembers how painful his divorce was and he feels he has to "make decisions about me". I reasured him that I am not expecting him to make decisions about me and the are only getting to know each other. He said that he is certain that he likes me. Halfway through the week he suddenly did not respond to a friendly "hi, how was your day?" text and have not been in touch at all. Gone completely cold turkey. I have not textedit him again, since he did not respond to my last text . I am just shocked that it is possible to dump someone at the age of 45 without a word. Do you agree that I have just been dumped?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): I don't agree, I think this is a lost cause. A two hour distance between the two of you after only knowing each other for three months is never going to work.
Doesn't have anything to do with him being confused after his divorce, that is a load of crap. He is an adult, he knows whether or not he likes you enough to keep seeing you, his lack of attention tells me he is not that into you. If you want to stay on the string for this man for when he can't find anything at home go ahead as long as you don't set yourself up for more hurt by expecting and hoping for something more.
I wouldn't contact him again. And if you have been dumped this is a coward's way of doing it, bad form indeed.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (27 March 2010):
 I am the same age as you and agree it is strange behaviour for one in our age bracket. You have been very wise not to respond and bombard him with texts - really well done on that one. I don't think you have been dumped I think he has just gone quiet. Fom what you say you have behaved in a text book manner, not pushing him or forcing him into anything. I reckon he has a lot of mental anguish going on and that once he is clear about things in his own mind he will be back in touch. This is most definitely NOT a lost cause.
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