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writes:Do you think that guys are the ones who always want to chase women? Do you know of any examples of situations where the woman was more actively pursuing the guy and it ends up working out? Reply to this Question
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Women should ABSOLUTELY be willing to chase men too. Just know that whoever does the chasing, man or woman, carries a risk of rejection. If you're rejected, it doesn't mean you were wrong to try. (If every man that got shot down quit trying, humanity would have died out.) But if you don't approach a guy, he may never approach you and who knows what you missed out on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): It is best for a woman to be chased by a man....I'm not just saying playing hard to get as a game...This is a mans biological role , modern day or not....If you are looking to settle down it is best to increase your 'level of difficulty' , not only does this make to more desireable but it gives you time to get to know a man first before jumping into a full blown relationship(ie if that is what you are lookng for).....By so doing you can quickly eliminate time wasters too....It is always best to slow things down if you are looking for something serious, so you dont become fully involved only to find out it wasnt right from the start....While it may not be a full guarantee, it would save you a lot of heartache as you would be giving yourself a chance to evaluate before going in.....Read 'Dating without drama' and catch him and keep him' online to get more insight to what I'm talking about
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): I think guys get bored if they are not the ones doing the chasing. Val Doonican used to sing a song that went: A boy chases a girl until she catches him. In other words, don't make it too obvious. Let him know that if he wants to ask you out, you will say yes.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 I've actively pursued most guys that I've ended up in a relationship with. In only 2 out of the total 6 relationships I've had was the man doing most if not all the chasing. I 2 relationships the chasing was mutual, meaning me and the guy hit it off from the start and were mutually pursuing each other. In the last 2 I did most if not all the chasing, and the guy warmed up to me and the prospect of us being together. The first guy I actively pursued asked me to marry him, but we didn't last long. The second guy I pursued is my current boyfriend and it's too early yet to tell you how it will all end.
As for random guys that I never ended up in a relationship with... I've been pursued by men more often than I have pursued them. I don't know if that counts though as these encounters were mostly before anyone knew the other, and were all based on first impressions. The reasons they didn't work out was that our personalities just didn't match, and many of these guys were more interested in looks than personality, while hardly being much to look at in return.
So to sum it up, a woman pursuing a man works fine. It takes that you know how to flirt and how to proceed. A bit of inside information on the female way to pursue a man though: we tend to do it more discrete, so that the guy is lead to believe HE is the one doing the chasing. He is lead to believe that he is the one who wants this woman, that he chose her, not the other way around. Women techniques to catch a guy tend to be more in the shadows, and more subtle, than a mans way to catch a woman.
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