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*issLoca
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years now and we have a 3 year old duaghter together. Now he's said to me several times over the past 3 years that if it wasn't for our daughter me and him wouldn't be together. The last time he said it was probably about 4 months ago. I dont know what to think about that. Like could he have changed and is really in love with me now or does that still mean he is only trying to make it work because of our daughter. I need help I just don't know what to think. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): You have a relationship spawned out of obligation and commitment, not geniune romantic love. You're fortunate in a way how he is mature enough to be a father and not flee his responsibilities.
It's not ideal but then again you didn't hold out for the ideal, which would be waiting for a man who proposed to you and married you because he believed you were the one for him. THEN you bring children into that equation.
You can't rewrite the past but you can make best with what you have. It may not be true love, so to speak, but you have a working family unit and a man committed to that.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 September 2011):
 Basically, the only reason he's with you is because you two have a child together.
I know if my boyfriend said that to me, I would dump him. There's no reason carrying on a relationship with a guy who just stays with me because of our child. That's not even a relationship anymore, you're just co-existing together because you feel like you have to.
Here's the thing, you don't have to!!!
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