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writes:Concerned about a lagging sexual desire. Been with b/f 5 years, he's funny, interesting and incredibly sexy to me but lately neither of us have been in the mood for sex. He's on blood pressure pills, so I understand where his problem is coming from; but oddly enough I used to crave sex from him pretty often, now it's like "okay, no problem". My last long term relationship died sexually before it died otherwise and I'm scared it could happen again. Do other couples who've been together for awhile find it hard to stay sexually excited about each other? We love each other and are affectionate and cuddly, but I don't want to lose sight of our sexual energy. Don't know what to do!
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 Well...very interesting question from female above 40 or near 50.
I take this statement of yours for worthy to answer..."We love each other and are affectionate and cuddly, but I don't want to lose sight of our sexual energy. Don't know what to do! "
Most important terms you use here is 'SEXUAL ENERGY', Show, your good understanding about sexual life. For you it is not pleasure but 'energy'.
but let me say first in short about your title question...'"Do other couples who've been together for awhile find it hard to stay sexually excited about each other?" Yes.. all most all couple lost their sexual excitement for each other, and most of them if not all, started to search out side marriage relationship. Your gussying is right, but your understanding about sex in energetic terms is supreme. You are likely to make best life.
My answer could be and should be more space demanding, so I am suggesting you to put this term, 'Tantra or Tantric sex', to Google search engine, and check as many web page as you can...make a note of your study, and finally write me about your finding, I will help you to put everything in to essential terms. I will and I can sum up in fine composition, by filtering unnecessary details. right?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 "Do other couples who've been together for awhile find it hard to stay sexually excited about each other?"
Yes. Simple answer but true. You have to work at staying excited about each other sexually. How? By being creative and open to variety in your love life. Such as exploring various positions, oral sex, perhaps toys (not my bag), and doing it in various locations. Try the shower or tub, outdoors, the car, etc. PS - There are bp meds without side effects that cause erectile dysfunction.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (11 January 2010):
Blood pressure meds do affect libido, do your bf needs to go to his doctor to tell him so that he can get his meds looked into. You need to tell him how you feel about missing the sex. If its hard for him to get aroused then why not experiment with oral sex. Also, if y'all are overweight maybe walking 30mins a day together will get blood flowing to the right places.
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