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writes:Hi Everyone,I'm hoping you can provide me with some insight here!I have been with my boyfriend for a year and he almost never goes down on me. In the 10 months we've been sexually active, he's gone down on me maybe 5 times. I can't figure out why though! The few times I've brought it up, I asked him he likes doing it and he said "yes". Then he'll say something like, "OK, I'll go down on you tonight," and he will, and then he'll act like the problem is solved. But it's not solved, because he won't ever do it again unless I ask him!I don't shave down there, but I trim it and keep it clean. I asked him a couple times if he would prefer it if I shave, and he said "no".Do you think it's possible that he doesn't like how I taste? What other reason would a guy have for never wanting to go down on a woman?Also, I go down on him pretty frequently (probably 1/2 the time we have sex, as foreplay), because he enjoys it AND I enjoy it! I just wish it was reciprocated more often!Have any of you dealt with this before? Do you think he will ever change? Do you think he just doesn't enjoy it but is afraid to tell me?Is there anything I can do to make him more willing?Thanks Aunts and Uncles!!
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86  +, writes (8 January 2014):
Out of 7 people, only 2 people didn't like it! Lucky me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2014): OP here--thank you everyone for your answers!!!
Definitely some good ideas here :)
I will definitely try to include more 69'ing.
Female anon--I think you're right about the brussels sprouts! hahaha
He only likes them when they're cooked a very specific way haha. I'd say that puts him into category C.
Brown Wolf--your suggestion was my favorite! I will try that for sure :)
llifton--good point about that too :) I'm pretty sure that's where his mind is at!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2014): I LOVE eating pussy!! It's my favourite thing in the world!! And my wife loves it as well. That's how she has all of her orgasms. I can make her come over and over again with my tongue. I love the way my wife tastes. I actually crave it! I could be down there all day! :-)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 January 2014):
 some guys like to do it just like some women like to give BJs and some guys don't like to do it but will do it when asked.
then there are men like my spouse who just won't/can't do it.
my husband is very sensitive to taste and smell. I know I don't smell or taste bad but he's adamant it's a non activity for him. I do NOT give him BJS in hopes of getting reciprocal treatment and neither should you.
IF you like giving BJs then give them.
IF you want oral and he is willing when asked, then ask him. and be grateful he will do it when he's asked....
gawd I miss it.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (8 January 2014):
Personally... I loved giving oral to a woman, but I get bored doing it the same way all the time, and I get even more bored when she makes it sound like a job. Just offer it up like it's the best thing I am going to tatse today. Not "Hey, do you want to go down on me?" Um...no!. But if you are slowly playing with yourself, moan and say "I got something I want you to taste." You just made it sexy, and now I want some :)If get where I am coming from.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2014): Lots of women don't like doing it to a guy, lots. They do it only to please him. Some men absolutely hate it or get no pleasure of going down on a woman, but they still do it. I think your boyfriend doesn't mind doing it but does only to please you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2014): It is to do with taste but not yours specifically. People either like oral sex or not. In my extensive experience you can tell if a guy really likes oral sex by whether he likes brussels sprouts or not. And I'm serious.... ask him.If he answers..A) Yes I love them - he loves oral sexB) No I hate them - he hates oral sexC) I don't mind them - that means he doesn't really hate brussels or love 'em. He'll eat them if they're on his plate, if it's Christmas or to be polite but he'd never actually by them himself or order them in a restaurant if he has a choice.Your b/f falls squarely into category C..... Oral sex does nothing for him so he won't actively seek it out but he'll rise to the occasion if he needs to.Can you change their minds? Probably not because it's quite difficult to change someone's tastebuds but since you b/f falls into category C he may rise to the occasion more often if he knows it's really important to you.And there are always exceptions.P.S Please let me know what he says about brussels sprouts!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 January 2014):
 69.
That simple, while you give him a little head as foreplay he gives you a little munch at the same time.
Could be though, that he isn't a huge fan of it. Not all men are and not women are either.
It should NEVER be a tit for tat game. If you ENJOY giving him head then continue as long as you LIKE doing it and don't feel pressured, now if he started to pressure you for it constantly, you might start to resent him and then later the action.
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reader, llifton +, writes (7 January 2014):
 His reason for not going down on you is most likely because he enjoys sticking his penis in you more. Lol.
I love performing oral sex on women. Legitimately. But he may not be doing it not because he's grossed out or doesn't like the taste - but just because he forgets to do it because he's so focused on the actual act if sex, that he doesn't do anything else. Thinking with his penis, basically.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (7 January 2014):
 i'm a bit like this too~ my ex used to ALWAYS go down on me, and it was amazing, but my current boyfriend is more reluctant since he doesn't like the taste too much, but there are times where he'll do it without me asking. I trim as well, occasionally shave, but i found that flavoured lube helped him do it on me more often, and if i just come out the shower :) but it's still not something he'll do every time.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (7 January 2014):
 I can't recall every discussing this with a guy who said he didn't like it, but that's hardly representative. Everyone's different. If he knows you like it and he's not taking the initiative then you can assume he doesn't care for it for whatever reason.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 January 2014):
 I think the latter, he probably doesn't like it that much but doesn't want to say it. It's kind of a sensitive subject and most people would be kind of upset by it. Have him use fingers or a toy instead.
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