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writes: Trying to get over break up. I know that I do not want him back, yet I feel I am obsessed with wanting to know what he is up to etc. Facebook is EVIL! Anyway, I have changed my privacy settings so he can't see my updates etc, looks like he did the same. I am still friends with him on there, the relationship was long distance, so at least I won't bump into him. Should I just defriend him? Won't he see I have done that? By the way he broke up with me so, maybe I should do that and get it over and done with. The break up wasn't bad, I agreed and wished him all the best, no hard feelings. But I get my moments of weakness and start thinking about him - especially in a sexual way...is this normal?? Do men still think of their exes in a sexual way after a break up? I have good days and bad days, I have even written a list of why I am better off without him and that helps. Anyone else done this?
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reader, Sttudyo  +, writes (30 December 2010):
I'm really not an expert on relationship but from an honest guy point of view, the simplest of answers is YES.
A lot of us guys, tend to think sexually about women we dated. Let's be honest here, is not a guy thing... it's a human thing and women do think like that, too.
Is your break up recent? It just normal to think about a person when break ups are recent. Give it a little more time... you'll feel better, and less bitter about not having to see him or talk to him again. Wait for some time and maybe you'll befriend him later in life...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): Yes, it happens all the time. Ever heard of "friends with benefits"? A lot of people start sleeping with their ex again, it always turns out badly in the end.When people break up they tend to forget all the bad things about the other person and focus on the good things. If they want them back that is. It's normal to THINK about it but it is not normal or healthy to sleep with your ex. There's a reason you broke up. Stay off facebook and go and do something new. New hobby, whatever just anything to take your mind off it.
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