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writes: Do men only want women in their 20's? What happens when you get to 30, 40 or even 50? What happens then? Will all the guys be busy chasing all the hot young 20 year olds and ignore the older women?So guys- who do you prefer?Women your own age or considerably youngerAnd gals- how have you found dating to be as you get older? Reply to this Question
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reader, alfTHEmouth  +, writes (7 April 2010):
The answer to your question is, in general, yes. Many very enlightened persons have already responded and suggested that the answer is "no." That might be the case for them but it is not for society in general.
This is reality: A woman in her 20s will be chased by men in their 20s, 30s and 40s. She has her pick of partners. Men often have it far rougher in their 20s. After 30, things change. Men gradually have more options and women have fewer.
You can complain all you want about this situation not being right. You find exceptions to the rule. But there is not doubt that this is the rule.
Why is this important for women? I've known many women in their 20s who put themselves into their careers and don't worry about dating. By the time they realize that it mightr be nice to have a relationship (or even an affair), they've missed the boat. By 35, for every 10 men who were lusting after them, only 1 is left.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 April 2010):
It's just the media. If an older guy is going out with a woman in her twenties and he happens to be famous, then it makes for a good story that will sell.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (7 April 2010):
 I'm 26 and oddly, most of the women I've been attracted to lately have been in their late 30s or early 40s because they're charming, confident, strong and mature in a way that these 20 year old flakes just aren't. I look forward to being in my 30s because women at that age seem to be unambiguously more attractive.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Men like girls in their teens, 20's 30's 40's 50's........
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone,
Thank you for your responses.
I got this impression because it seems like where ever I look in the media its always young girls with older guys. I DO NOT mean Anna nicole Smith with the octogenarian but I mean couples with 10-15 year age gaps. It just seems like men tend to date women who are much younger than themselves and it makes me wonder if you are a woman who gets to to around 40 ... would you still have any options?
I am actually 24 and my partner is almost 40. It scares me to think that he might leave me when I get to be 30. All his partners seem to be at least 10 years his junior so it does make me wonder...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Ah, the question that launched a 1000 blogs. Let me quench your fears once and for all by saying; there will always be men available for women of all ages. Rest assured. In the meantime take care of your health, your body, and use your time wisely and spend it with people who truly appreciate it...and you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 April 2010):
My girlfriend's older than me. I don't really care about age so long as they're genuine. I find woman in their 20's (my age) pretty boring to be honest. I think it's a case that when some men get older they worry that they're losing their sex appeal, and think the only way to get it back is to date a younger woman. But I think you'll find a good committed man really doesn't care.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Lots of younger guys like older women. Some men PREFER older women. Women who are in their 30's and 40's can be a lot more mature then women in their 20's (no offense intended to you women still in their 20's)
So to answer your question, no... men do not only want women in their 20's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Im in my mid thirties and married. Funnily enough I actually had the same conversation with a group of buddies a few weeks ago. The way that we figured it (we're all married or in significant relationships) is that guys are naturally attracted to women in their twenties for a number of reasons:- Women are most attractive in their twenties.- If a woman is single in her mid thirties (never been married) there is usually a reason...!- Women in their twenties are less likely to have baby baggage etc- If you meet a woman in her thirties without children she'll usually be desperate for children straight away. Now that doesn't mean that I would ever consider leaving my wife for a twenty year old. Meeting my wife was by far the best thing that has ever happened in my life and we have three wonderful children. A woman like her would never have been single for long so I was very lucky indeed - it also illustrates my point.
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (6 April 2010):
 My last girlfriend was 5 years older than me. Age to me is fairly irrelevant to a point. It comes down to:
Do I find them attractive ?
Do we get on well and have a connection ?
If yes, then it doesnt really matter.
I find that older men are more attracted to younger women and younger men are more attracted to older women.
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