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writes: I've never been very good at starting relationships it always seems to go wrong. A short while ago I made eye contact with a guy and this continued for about a month. I assumed he was interested. He eventually spoke and asked for my phone number. Then he kissed me on the cheek and told me he would ring.He didn't. The next few times I went out he just kept looking at me all night.I smiled at him a few times but he didn't come and talk to me. A few weeks later he started seeing this girl who looks the exact opposite of me. Did he just do this to boost his own ego??? I feel so stupid for thinking that he liked me cuz after seeing what his new girlfriend looks like I don't think there's anyway he could of. Do men just get a kick out of playing stupid mind games?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): i don,t know what men get a kick out of playing mindagames.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): In my passed i have came across whay i thought was a relation ship, but like all the others it wasnt, there are women who play games as well as men ,but with me being a female i have came across men who does it, and i want to in my heart to belive them but with me in my passed relation ships i cant, i just want this one thing to work out , when we are together ever thing is good, but when we are apart its all games, what should i do,if any body has any feed back please let me know and ill tell ya more, thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): Do men get a kick out of mindgames? Well, my experience is that some people have this natural tendency for selfishness and mindgame. Gender plays no role. Like DrPete and Dazzerg stated..some are male and some are female. However, when I hear of women ranting about "selfish men," who play mindgames, I think of the devoted men who work hard, to put bread on the table for their families. No, I don’t think men are particularly selfish and play mindgames. There is a lot of honorable, good, decent fellows out there. You just have to learn to slow down and not fall for a guy who was scoping you out as a potential. You simply made the mistake of allowing your 'expectations' to get the best of you, and many females do this and then complain bitterly , when she isn't chosen. You just made the oh-so common error, of being emotionally blinded as a result of heavy eye contact, a kiss on the cheek and pinning some hopes on him, when there really was 'nothing' between you both.
Get over this minor annoyance, dear and instead of closing off your heart, expand it. But above all, through all this..have compassion for yourself. Just give yourself a sense of personal power and choose to learn from all this. Believe me, not all guys are like this. Just use your head, instead of your heart, dear and be smart about selecting who is good for your future. I wish you the best-.you were put in a tough spot. Take care and be strong and just keep believing in yourself.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (30 September 2006):
 I think he want to reassure his sex appeal by using you or trying a picking up tecnique when he looks at you ignore him of pull him a funny face, is he tells people you gave him your number just say it is not true that he's an idiot
it seems but is is not important at all darling you'll notice soon
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006): Yes there are lots of guys about like this. They seem interested, take your number disappear and then turn up on the scene with a different girl. I know it's highly humiliating and has happened to me on two occassions with the same guy. They behave as though they are interested but it probably isn't just your number they have got on their phone. They get some sort of weird kick/ego boost out of it. The funny thing is these sort of guys only pick on us nice girls because they can get away with it.Put it down to experience and don't give him the chance to humiliate you again. Move on, we just have to get a little wiser that's all and differentiate between the good and the bad guys.
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reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):
 It's not just some men that play mind games, women are just as bad, it's there issue not yours and I would just learn from this and move on, but you can't put every man into this category as everyone is different and if you was to meet someone new that believed all women were the same from his bad experiancing you would feel he wasn't giving you the chance to prove you are different to the bad ones.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (30 September 2006):
 I would agree with Dr Pete and only add that if people are playing mind-games it is often to boost their ego or else put themselves at some way in the centre of attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006): Dear,
Plenty of girls do this too. Are you a teenager? It's how some of you girls, and guys behave with one another.
If someone lets you down - it's there problem. Don't feel stupid, and DONT generalise that men are like this. Put it down to the individual and move on. I am sure you will come across people you hurt as you get over, it's just how things sometimes are.
Move on from this, and enjoy your life.
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