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writes:Long distance relationships - Do they work?I've met a guy through work who I really like. Only problem is that I haven't met him - he lives about 5 hours away from me. We talk everyday (Monday - Friday) and text each other most evenings. He says he feels the same (and said this before I told him how I felt) and I really want to meet him, if only to see if we have any chemistry when we meet. I think we will and so does he. I just want to stress again that everything he's said has come from him and not prompted by me and when I have had doubts, he has not. We've arranged to meet on a few occasions, but it hasn't worked out due to various reasons. I feel that I should try to forget about him as everytime we don't meet it hurts more and more. I think that if we did meet we could have something really great, but the question is, could this work? I know we have to meet before we can figure this out but what if we meet and things are great, is it worth the coping with the distance between us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Long distance relationships can work, but through a lot of effort and a LOT of mental restraint to keep your physical needs at bay.
Think, you are missing these vital things: touching, caressing, kissing, hugging, cuddling - all the stuff that stimulate emotion as well as physical desires. The relationship is also missing the physical dating aspect like eating together, spending time together, spending common interests together, spending time together with friends and/or with family, spending time chatting about stuff, having arguments (yes, those are equally important on some levels), brainstorming things together, etc, etc, etc, etc.
So what you're left with is texting, phone calls, emails, and webcamming. If you're lucky, the occasional physical visit. However, think about the times you really feel down, and/or you really want someone to give you a tight hug and some sweet soft words of comfort. Think about the times where you just want to rant and see your lover smile back at you, and say "There there honey, it's alright. I'll take you for some Baskin Robins." ^_^
It's hard, but it's possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): to be honest i dont really know if they work but my advice to u wud be to go and meet up with him its definatley worth it u really never no how it will end up you could be so so good together and not regret a second and the worst that cud happen is that ye didnt get on as well as u thought and its not as if ur going to see him everyday anyway....im kind of in a similar situation and if i hadnt met up with him now i dunno wher i wud be without him its weird how things go but go for it girl!!good luck let me no how it goes ;) x
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