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writes: Here is my problem. I met a guy online, we like eachother so much. He is going to visit me in a couple of months (We live in different countries). He is always busy since he is on duty in the army in Iraq. lately, He rarely talk to me or even email me. But it's not something new, cuz he's been in Iraq since I knew him. But when he got promoted he becomes TOO busy. He always says sorry for being busy etc but I'm feeling neglected. Maybe I'm feeling this way now cuz there is another guy who cares for me (a real life guy), but I'm just treating him as a friend. He is an amputee(I have no problem with that). He told me he likes me but I said I can't be more than just a friend (Cuz I love my online guy).My friends keep telling me that I'm crazy to wait for this online lover, and I have to try to approach this other guy who really cares for me all the time. I'm really feeling neglected by my online lover lately, but he always give me excuses and I accept them. I feel I must be faithful to him untill we meet. Everyone tells me that I'll regret if I lost this real life guy cuz he is such a wonderful guy and that waiting for that online guy is a crazy immature thing.Sorry for making it so long!Thnx for reading
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reader, abbey08  +, writes (18 September 2008):
well...i'm biased cause i'm in the position that your real life guy is in. except the guy i'm with cheats on his online person all the time cause hes a jerk...lol. but anyway.
as that real life person, its really really hard to watch the person you really like like some other person that they have never even met. its frustrating to me because i am right here, i live at the same university as my guy that i like. she lives all the way on the other side of the country.
all i can ever think about is how i am always here for him, she can't be. he's even spent the night in my dorm room (we didn't have sex or anything, just watched movies and went to sleep)
it is REALLY hard from my perspective to know that he is choosing a person that from my point of view "isn't real" over me.
i'm sure your guy feels very similar.
idk. the thing about the internet, you can lie allll you want and never ever get caught. just like the guy i'm with, he could be lying. he could already have a girlfriend, even a wife! he could be in a different country, not even in the military. not all people are liars, but so many are that i would find it hard to trust this guy.
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