Do I try to push our friendship to another level? I'm not even sure that I like him as more than a friend

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey everyone! So I think I might have a problem... I'm 18 years old and in high school. There is this guy, he's my best friend ( and in my class) and I think I might have some feelings for him... Before summerbreak, he told me he liked me and I said I just wanted to be friends. I didn't even flinch about it then. But at a moment this fall, he told me about a girl he was seeing and I almost started crying?? I felt really weird avbout it but it was at a party so I just held the tears back... That's first sign I got from myself,, Then I started getting a bit jealous or at least noticing that he was dancing with other girls. We were still friends as usual and other than short moments at parties I only hasd friendly feelings for him. Then just when the christmas break started, we were at a party and danced really close so I started seeing him in a totally different light. Then when we were out at a club one night at the end we hugged a lot and there was this different feeling. We were at the same club a couple of days later and there we held hands and talked the whole night... Even though my friends and there and his too, we spend that time together. Two days before new years, he came over and we spent some together, watching a movie and just talked. I felt so good because I really had fun and enjoyed his companys, differently than before. We cuddled up together in the sofa and he had his arm around me. When we said goodbye, late at night, we hugged for a verryyyy long time and I just remember looking into his eyes and there was an "almost- almost kiss moment" He also explained something I had found out, (him sleeping with one of our friends a year ago) and kept making "excuses" but I didn't care because it's so long ago. After new years that we also spent together we wrote on facebook and we discussed our biggest wishes, one of his were that I wouldn't move away after high school... SO the big question is, what should I do?? On one hand Im not even sure I like him maybe it's just my imagination?? But I don't want to lie about my feelings and I think I want to try and see what happens if I evolve the relationship slowly by seeing if there is something more between us. And what is he feeling now? Are the feelings he once had, completely gone? SOmetimes it feels more than friendly but we are so close that I can't even tell... If I try to see what could happen, would it have an effect on our friendship?? Help needed as I'm very confused :))

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