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writes:Do I try to keep the relationship we have now, or end it completely?Hello. I have written everyone before for some advise, and the responces were great in helping me out. It has to do with the same woman. For those of you that don't know, I was with her for 10 years, and engaged to her also. It ended last April. In the past year, we have been emailing each other, gone out on dates with each other, and have enjoyed each other company. To me at times, it seemed like old times. At least until reicently. When we did see each other, it was on the weekends. It sounded like that for this weekend, when I recieved an email from her that she wasn't coming in and that she was going on a trip for the weekend with someone she has dated since our break up. I don't know how to act or feel about this. Am I wrong for feeling hurt? Its obvious she has moved on, and I haven't. But, how do you forget 10 years? It hurts to know that she is with someone else. Should I maintain what we have now, or end it all? Thank for your help.
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 She should have told you she was seeing someone else.
I think you should stop seeing her and move on best you can.
She cant just expect to click her fingers and for you to come running. You have feelings for her and she is walking all over them.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (28 May 2007):
 For the past year the two of you have been emailing and dating. Seeing each other on the weekends. During all that time she didnt once mention that she was seeing someone else also? She should have been honest with you the whole time, let you know she was playing the field. To keep it secret all this time and then lay it on you like a bombshell that instead of coming to see you this weekend, as she had hinted she would, she got a better offer and is going away for the weekend with some other guy. She has really shown serious disrespect for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): Aww! Well of course its going to hurt you where with this women for such a long time and you gave her all your trust and anyone would feel like they had been taken for a ride if there ex who they still loved behaved like this,
But when you dated her unless she made that commitment to you and said where officially back together she unfortunately was well within her rights to meet someone else,
However cruel it was that she led you on like that, I wouldn’t continue dating her it does sound like she likes to play games with you because she knows you still have feelings for her,
Its now time for once in those ten years to take your focus off her, You deserve some much needed time (And I don’t mean time to dwell over everything)
I mean time for you to say “well you know what you’ve hurt me but I’m still gonna live my life and have some much needed Joy in my life right now!”
Everything happens for a reason and you’re too good a person to be hurt by this woman,
This may inspire to go for something of real Joy and fulfillment, how many people have rose above Loosing someone they Loved and transcended themselves in terms of spirit and soul?,
Well I can tell you Thousands I’m one of them after reading this answer, try researching the Law of Attraction on the Internet,
This is your chance to live life to the full now don’t waste it, Do whatever makes YOU happy,
This is the most Important thing give everything a try and see if these different things(spiritual things) make you feel better and help you to grow and change as a person,
Take Care (And remember the choice is yours and always has been,)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): honestly unless you want to hurt more then i suggest that you just end it and try to move on its going to be hard i know but your gonna have to let her go or your going to be holding onto something that will never work and youll just be unhappy for the rest of your life. good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): It is hard to leave someone after you have spent 10 years together - trust me I know I'm a 37 old female with a guy who is not going to marry me (different religions) after 9 years together but we just can't leave each other - point is you'll never move forward if you keep going back. Over time your heart will open up and let someone in that will want to commit to you forever. Easier said than done but try to move on it's the healthy think to do.
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