A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:June of 2008 I married what I thought was the man for me. We have been together for 4 years before getting married. He came into the relationship with no children. About a year later come to find out he has 4 boys. The youngest being 8. At first I was afraid to be with someone who has so much responsibility, but I loved him and excepted his children. After a year of living with him and his kids I started to feel unappreciated and ignored. I left and moved in with 2 male friends; about 2 months later he came to me begging and crying for me to forgive him that he has changed and asked me to marry him and I accepted. He lost the house we had because of finances so him and his 4 boys moved in my apartment... a one bedroom apartment. Me thinking this was only temporary for like a month or so lasted what it felt like forever. Anyhow I got my credit in good shape and he agreed to do the same. On June of 2008 we decided to tie the knot and I was so happy. A few weeks later one of his children became phsycologically ill. He had issues on top of issues that were extremely hard to deal with. I started to think this child was just looking for attention and he started to come in between me and my husband.I in turn started to dislike this child, he is a liar, thief and manipulater. We got him some inpatient help but my husband decided to take him out of the facility for selfish reasons. The boy and I did not get along and we had had an argument one day and my husband instead of defending me his wife defended his child and said that I was being childish. Not only did his child disrespect me but he pulled the wool over his father's eyes and he turned on me. The end of january of 2009 I left leaving only a note stating that I cannot deal with all the drama of his chilren. I was in a good financial position and had the world eating out the palm of my hand. Decided to go back to school, furnish my new apartment; the whole none yards. I now find myself really missing him, he didnt even call me when I left to even see if I were okay. We still have some shared items in storage unit and I think I didnt get the items because I will always have at least one reason to contact him. Well it turns out I lost my job, I hate being alone and I am extrmemly lonley. I am not sure if I feel the way I am feeling because I am in financial distress and am on the verge of being out on the street or do I truly miss him and only wish that I had him to lean on. I am so confused, I havent talked to him since I left and I am afraid to hear or feel any rejection. Please someone give me some good advice on what to do?
View related questions:
liar, moved in Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, sappygirl +, writes (4 May 2009):
 You are missing him because you are feeling
Down and lonely. U miss how it used to be.
But think back to all the drama and the lies
And deception. Can you handle that again if
You reconcile? Don't look back and go back
In time. Look forward and ahead to the future.
Be strong. This is a test for you . Think about
The life that you want. Does it include 4 boys?
Because like it or not, they are a package deal.
|
