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writes:I might be pregnant. It's outside of a relationship, although we're good friends. I don't have anyone else to talk to this about and I'm freaking out. I'm two weeks late. I've already gone to the doctor and discussed everything which you could suggest I do (testing, waiting, other reasons for delayed period etc) and I don't want to go into detail of what was said. Bottom line, I might be pregnant and I definitely shouldn't rule pregnancy out for reasons of delayed period. It's probably the most likely reason. I don't want to create drama or anything, I just want to be able to talk to him about the "what ifs" of it all. Is it fair to him that I bring this up and ask him? Because I don't have anyone to talk to (can't talk to friends and family for good reasons) I've been driving myself insane having this all bottled up. Everyday is like a countdown. I'm only 18 and don't have much money. He was always worried that I might fall for him and I don't want him to think that I just want an excuse to talk to him more. I'm also worried that he might not want to sleep with me again after a pregnancy scare - not because I have feelings for him, I just haven't met anyone I like and it's nice to have sex with someone I know and trust without any pressure.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 February 2012):
 Don't tell any guy til you know 100% that you are pregnant. Ulness of course you like some drama in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): I agree, you should wait. He won't thank you if you scare him with a pregnancy if it doesn't turn out to be the case. You have no idea how he'll react, he may turn on you and walk away from your friendship.
OP what kind of "friend" is this guy that you're so worried about all these other little things? He doesn't sound like a good friend at all. You're worried he might think you want to talk to him more? What the fuck does that mean? Sounds to me he's not a friend OP but a fuck buddy, one that definitely doesn't want a relationship and one which you clearly care about much more than you like to admit. If he was just a friend then all that other stuff wouldn't bother you and yeah, I've heard the "there's just no one else around excuse before too."
Frankly OP I wouldn't be worried about him not wanting to sleep with you when you tell him after you know for certain what's what. You need to tell him once you find out whether you were scared that you were or whether you are because you both need to practice safe sex and not get into this position again.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 You should talk to him, BUT ONLY WHEN YOU ARE 100% SURE YOU ARE PREGNANT. I am not quite sure why you are two weeks late and don't have a confirmed pregnancy, because this isn't very common - there would more likely be another reason. You might have a chemical pregnancy (which isn't a real one). It all sounds a bit confusing.
Good luck but don't obssess and stress, and don't tell him, until you are sure.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (19 February 2012):
 HI
this is a rocky road your heading down. your afraid more about if this guy will sleep with you again rather than the obvious.......you could be pregnant.. yes you should defo tell him, because it took two to tango.he has a right to know. but more importantly you are ONLY 18, and have a whole life ahead of you, do you really want to be a single mother now? or if he is ok with it do you STILL want to be a mother now? it may sound all rosey right now, but trust me when i say bringing up a child will be the HARDEST thing you will EVER do in your life. think very very hard about this before you come to your desision.
Mandy xx
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 February 2012):
 Wait until you know if you're pregnant before you do anything.
But if you are, yes you should tell him so he can help you emotionally and with expenses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): You FIRST confirm if you are pregnant or not. Head to a doctor as those tests coupled with bloodwork are more accurate a read.Its a waste of time and energy to worry over some event that is not even occuring. So in the meantime, show some restraint and wait until its confirmed.It would invite in unnecesarry drama at this point in time and if that is what you want to avoid; then do so.It stands to reason that if you exclude talking to Friends and Family about this, you should not address it with someone you have feelings for as it would totally come across as a means to trap him and guilt him into having feelings towards you based on a worry and not FACTUAL.Wait it out a few more weeks. You can do that.If it proves to worrysome, then head to a local clinic or even a walk in clinic that offers free counsel.
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