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writes:I'll try to keep this one short guys, would be great to get some impartial advice :) My friend introduced me to a mate of his who was in town for a party about a year ago. Me and this guy really hit it off and became really good friends but were always quite cuddly when we hung out. He currently lives a 5 hour drive away with his work for the next few months but we keep in touch regularly. At the start of the year he said he wanted to spend his birthday with me rather than with his best friends from home which I was quite surprised at. Him and his mate stayed for the weekend and we had an amazing weekend. During this weekend we both admitted we've always really liked eachother and ended up kissing passionatly and nothing else (he's not the sleazy type). After he left he would text me sweet little messages saying how much he missed me and how he couldnt wait to see me again, we spoke lots each day. He would act quite boy-friendy in texts even though we hadn't made anything official. We agreed to meet up again a few weeks ago but both had to cancel last minute due to money issues, since then he's been a bit distant. We went about two weeks with little contact (I'm stubborn and refuse to chase people). We got speaking regularly again a few days ago when he'd heard I was really ill. It came up in passing conversation that my mum is in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend and suddenly he piped up and started asking me lots of questions about how they made it work etc. I really like this guy and I wouldnt mind doing the long distance thing for a few months until he ends up moving closer which he plans to. But I dunno what to say to him? Do I just keep acting matey and see what happens or just go for it and tell him I'd like something more serious?Mates always comment on the chemistry between us whenever we're around eachother and keep commenting how its supposedly blatently obvious we like eachother (even before we both admitted we liked eachother). On the night he blurted out he liked me, mates kept commenting that he kept gazing at me or if I went to the bar or the toilet he kept worrying asking them where i'd gone... So confused! Any help is much appreciated! Thank you in advance :)
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (20 February 2009):
 I think this guy really likes you but is scared of the long distance thing, and with your attitude of "not wanting to chase" he is also confused by the situation.
I think maybe you should write him a letter (old fashioned I know but is so much more personal than an e-mail)and tell him what you are thinking. I'm pretty sure he feels the same way.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): This is a fledgling relationship waiting to flourish.You cannot be frightenly too strong,however i would be warm cosy and friendly. He obviously likes you but isnt sure how to go forward,friends around him may have said long distance relationsips dont work. He was suprised when he found that your mother was successfully doing that.Then he livened up and asked questions. Be honest in a subtle way.Think about that and you will work it out.No need to be in his face,be subtle and honest. It will work. Shall i buy a hat the size of Venezuela???
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