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writes:I went to a dinner party for one of my best friends, and her dad who is married complimented me twice. Both times I felt very uncomfortable. He called my name across the table, and begin to say how attractive I am. And as I was leaving the party he stood close to me, and whispered how attractive I am. My spirit feels so restless. I don't want cause jumble to my friend or her step mother. What should I do? Do I tell my friend what her father said? How do I get overcome this encounter?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (8 August 2016):
Be careful...If alcohol was involved...that could explain his bold comments.
However, if he does it sober...now you have ground to say something.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (8 August 2016):
 Given that he has said twice before, you may want to reply to him like this if he says it again: "I heard you the first time. This is your third time saying the same thing. No need for you to repeat yourself."
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 August 2016):
 I wouldn't tell them. It will make you look like YOU are starting drama or looking for attention.
Stand up for yourself is ALWAYS a good thing.
If he complements you again, tell him thanks and change the subject. If he later on repeats it, tell him you heard it the first time. YOU do NOT owe him attention or ANYTHING else because he pays you a compliment. Just be classy about it.
And like Auntie BimBim said, don't be shy about telling him to not invade your personal space. My guess is he is hoping you will be OH SO flattered that you will be OH SO grateful....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2016): I'm assuming your question was rhetorical, intended as an opener for the statements that follows. You are absolutely correct. I am an adult, and the choice is mine to opt not attend functions he will attend, and if I happens again I will speak up for myself. Thanks, Aunty BimBim for the advice.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (8 August 2016):
 What do you hope to achieve by telling your friend her father appears to find you attractive?
You are an adult, next time he says you are attractive simply say "thank you for the compliment" and if he stands too close tell him he is invading your personal space.
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