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writes:My fiance and I have been together for 7 years(since 8th grade) but we've broken up a couple times since we got out of highschool. We were each others first, we live together now and we're getting married this October. But I slept with someone else during one of the break ups about 2 years ago and I've always regretted it but I never told him. The guy I slept with actually passed away a little over a year ago. I don't regret it anymore but I still haven't told my fiancee. But I think about how I should tell him all the time. I'm so afraid he'll hate me for it because it's been so long. I'm also afraid he'll call off the wedding. I know that this is the man I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with and I'd hate to screw it all up just to clear my thoughts. Should I tell him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): When I'm reading your question, it reminds me of the Ross and Rachel 'we were on a break' thing from friends! To be honest, I don't think you should tell him. Because nobody will benefit and you might just end up hurting him. But, on the other hand, if he really loves you he will appriciate you telling him and being honest with him. And it will show great respect that you put yourself in that position, because you love and respect him so much that you would tell the truth even when it hurts. To be honest I don't really have an answer. But just consider both sides I mentioned and work out which one is best for you. Good luck, hunni x
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 No you shouldn't tell him. If it had happened whilst you were together then this would be a different story as I would understand why you feel so guilty, but it didn't, it happened whilst you were on a break. There is no point in upsetting your fiancee. You shouldn't feel guilty, how do you know he didn't do the same thing during your break? Just let the past stay in the past and start thinking about your future together!
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