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male
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anonymous
writes:Help, I am 23 and I am bi,I met a guy older than me 37 through a local chat site, and on his profile it said looking for fun, so i thought that would be ok, because nothing would materialize thru this and that nothing would happen, eventually we had a friendship growing between us, and yes there was the sexual textion over the phone and sms's, but I made sure that I kept my feelings in check because I felt that I would be the one to fall for someone quicker and he was just looking for fun.. the friendship grew and we met up for coffee, we made out, fooled around, but we had moments where we'd just chat, because I started feeling more uncomfortable as I realised at the end of our get together that he has fallen completely in love with me, where i do not have any romantic feelings for him, as on my side it turned more into a friendship.When I told him that I am not looking for a relationship, and that I don't think we should do this and that this has made me confused into the lifestyle that I thought i wanted, he was ok, but then he went down completely because he says that I was everything that he ever wanted, and on my side I have realized that I didn't enjoy that I was more uncomfortable..He says that he will love me forever and that I mean the world to him, but when I told him that I can not love him in that way, he was torn, but then later said we can be friends, and that i am his best friend.I feel uncomfortable with what happened and I honestly don't know what to do because I have found myself avoiding him when he pops on-line to chat or to sms.I have a broken heart with how this happened, but I don't think its a good idea for us to be friends, but problem is that work has been bad he lost his job, his apartment he has problems with parents, and now me.I don't think its a good idea to remain friends because he says he wants to get to know me again as a friend but I know how he feels and I will not feel comfortable with it, the friendship is going too be all to weird now, and I will be stressed knowing what is on his mind, he says he stares at my picture wishes that it could be different and how I was the one..What should I do? Do I tell him its better to go our separate ways or tag along and feel this guilt for something that I thought would not happen.
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