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writes:hi. me and my boyfriend both lost our virginity to eachother last january (so around a year ago) a few months after this we broke up for a bit, and i ended up sleeping with someone else. all i thought about was him. we got back together and everything was good. we then broke up again a few months ago and have just recently got back together. i want it to be proper this time, i love him so much. do i tell him what i did 1 year ago when we broke up? he will be upset to think that ive slept with someone else and he hasnt. im so confused and sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): Its very likely that he is not understanding. Most likely, He will think of you as a cheat, if you tell him. And this is not good for a long term relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): No not never, why should you? You were split up, so what the hell does it have to do with him? What good will it do? He will throw it back at you at every arguement and it will even cause many an arguement, i know!!!!! Talking from experience, so dont do it, you will be called all the slags under the sun, and it will not cement your relationship through being honest, it will blow it apart. Put it out of your head and move on with your bloke. If any thing is said by the bloke you slept with then deny it, take my word, it need to be forgot.
take carexx
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reader, larry2themind  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 I agree... Honestey is usually the best policy, But in this case there is nothing to be honest about, You did not cheat so you did nothing wrong, Therefore its best to say nothing.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 I think you should wait to see if he ever ask you that question.
If I would be at his place, I would have thought of the idea that you may have slept with another guy while I wasn't in the picture.
I would understand it and accept it without wanting to know the real answer.
I was in the same situation, and I never asked her if she did anything with other guys cause I didn't care. All I wanted was to be with her and that all that mattered.
It's not about the separate history that you guys have that counts. It's the history that you guys are going to make together that matters.
Hope this helps.
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reader, lushlass93 +, writes (4 June 2008):
 you shouldnt just come out with it and tell him because it has nothing to do with him but if he asls you dont deny it you did that because you wanted too and its got nothing to do with him beacuse thatw as something you did and not him so dont lie to him thouhg becasuse you wont feel good
good luckxxxx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (4 June 2008):
 NO NO NO!!
For one thing it is none of his buisness, because you didnt cheat. And if you do tell him it will ruin the trust that he has in you. Please keep it to yourself and dont try to make yourself feel better by telling him.
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