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writes:I have known this girl for a few years now and we're good friends. I Realized a couple weeks ago that I love her. I can't stop thinking about her. Ever since I realized that I loved her I haven't started the conversations at all. She has been the one who calls or texts or comes over to sit next to me during school. I basically haven't talked to her much because I don't want to say anything wrong. Unfortunately she thinks she did something wrong and I am mad at her, which is not the case. The problem is, I know she has no feelings for me and only likes me as a good friend.So... Do I tell her I love her? Should I do it over the phone, or in person? How to I get over her and keep her as a friend though? What should I do? I really need help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): tell her u love her but wait until ur alone with her she might just have thhose same feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Honesty is always the best policy... Just tell her in person how you feel, you have nothing to lose by telling her that!!
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reader, lonelynights  +, writes (20 September 2007):
Have you ever been out with her or only been with her at school? Do you see her out of school? If no to those questions then ask her out but start very slowly. Dont rush into anything. You have all the time in the world to say those 3 little words and if she feels the same it will happen naturally any way.I wish you all the best
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reader, rk06 +, writes (20 September 2007):
 Hey bud, go for it. Tell her you like her (dont say love just yet lol). Life is too short to wonder "what if." Its tough, I know. I went through the same thing many times. Good luck, you can do it.
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reader, muchluv4 +, writes (20 September 2007):
you should tell her in person so she knows how much you appreiate her
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Yes go for it! But don't expect her to say it back. Or maybe you should just tell her that you like her. Just to see how she reacts. Maybe if you say you love her she will freak out and go away b/c she might feel pressured. Clarify to her that you have been feeling different about her lately and that's the reason for your silence. Please do it in private. Just the 2 of you.
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reader, Alliehoff +, writes (20 September 2007):
 Definatly dont tell her over the phone.It'd be pretty tough to do in person.i say write her alittle note,but if your going to tell her,dont do it when shes around her friends.just the two of you.But dont spend your whole life wondering what if?I say go for it,and if she does not like you like that.say "well we'll always be friends",but dont make her feel to bad.and yes it will be awkward for a while,but hopefully everything works out!!! GOOD LUCK:D
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reader, aftamath96 +, writes (20 September 2007):
OUCH!!
I think you ned to tell her how ya feel, but not on the phone!!! Face 2 Face that way it'd be real! just be honest with her about ya feelings, but b4 i think ya need 2 tell her dat she aint done nothing wrong. Be careful if ya realy dont wanna lose the freindship, stress this b4 ya tell her!!
But if your 100% sure she has no feelings for ya...maybe its best left alone.
Dont do ne thing you'll regret either way your gna hurt so i think ya need 2 think what ya realy want n just go 4 it!!!!
Good Luck GAz
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