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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My relationship is over but im confused. A few days ago i had a strong feeling that my boyfriend was talking to some one else whenever i ask him he would tell me he aint cheating and i should stop accusing him...i would do it alot because of how i feel and he would get mad at times.....the other day i found a text in his phone saying "im here wondering if im going to c u tonight....." there and then i knew i was right...i confronted him he swore he wasnt cheating, he didnt explain much about the text maybe he was shocked or something or too guilty i mean you cant stop some one from cheating and things havent been going good in our relationship so....yea. Anyway i started packing my things and he said he was gonna move out aswell to a different place, i didnt tell him it was over but he said he got the picture. I didnt have anywhere to go as i wasnt working to pay the rent and im in a foreign country so he said i could stay another month and he will pay for the apt and the bills. This is where im confused, he said he just cant do it any more he cant continue the relationship with all the arguing and accusations and im sure he was also stressed and maybe needed time for himself so i say ok no problem, but he still wants to help me with my rent and bills in the future ( i just got a job) he says he will still help me with my rent and bills as he still loves me...my cousin says i should give him a break and within a month's time i can try and talk to him again if i still have feelings for him, right now i love him soooo much and he says he still loves me even though he says he cant do it anymore, he says its not that he dont want to do it he just cant continue the rship, do u think a month from now i could try again? i am willing to because he is a wonderful man and i was happy with him until all the arguments and accusations start....he is LEO if that helps plz give me some advice.....should i let go and move on or should i try again even though he says he cant do it anymore?? We been officially apart for 5 days now but he still calls me every day and ask if im ok, how was my day and brings food for me if i didnt make dinner....Wednesday he called me saying the guy whom he used to ask to take food for me ask him y he hasn't taken any to me in a while...he was asking me what he should say to the guy.....
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 There could be many reasons for him still continuing to help you with things.
Personally I feel its because he still loves you and doesn't see the relationship as completely over, just a break as things got abit out of hand and as you said, it all got abit too much with the arguements and accusations.
If you still love him and want to be with him then you really need to work out what it is that cause you to accuse him of cheating then try talking to him, tell him how you feel and that you want to give it another go etc.
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