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writes: I made a promise to my ex that I would never leave him, as all of his life he had people walking in and out of his life. We broke up about a year ago and I started seeing somebody else who is my partner now. My partner now is such a caring man and does everything to make me happy whereas me and my ex had a very volatile relationship. The problem is that since Ive been with my partner I have always been in contact with my ex, and have even cheated on him 4 times with my ex. My ex has waited a year for me and doesnt know I am in a relationship. but the fact he has waited a year says he is serious about me. I'm living a lie. I feel like Im playing them both and I really dont mean to. I just dont know what to do? Stay in a comfortable relationship where I care for my partner and he makes me happy or go back to my ex who I have deeper feelings for but suffer a volatile relationship with?what makes it worse is that my ex is losing is home and says Im never there to help with his struggle and has now given me an ultimatum.Somebody please help this has been going on for too long.
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reader, markanthonyv0  +, writes (5 April 2007):
Think about it this way, if you feel so stressed, is your partner really making you happy? Your ex may just be an excuse for you to ignore a problem you are having with your partner. Also ask, why do I need to keep going back to my ex, what is it that your ex has that your partner does not. Look closely at how you described your partner "does everything to make me happy ", but the question is does he succeed in his attempts to make you happy. Look at how you described your ex "the fact he has waited a year says he is serious about me", you see the committment and appreciate the passionate effort he puts in. So I leave you with this, what is happy? and what does "deeper feelings" really mean?
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