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writes:So, I thought I was sure on my sexuality. But, lately I feel like I'm not a lesbian. Or I don't know where my feelings point to. Because I find both boys and girls attractive in 'that' way. But then again, lesbians aren't blind, and neither are straight people. They know when someones attractive. I'll admit I have watched porn before, and I think anyone who says they haven't are lying. Or most of the time they are. I think penises are disgusting... But then again, I'm nearly fourteen I shouldn't necessarily think penises are 'attractive'. Ever since I was little, I thought girls were attractive. But I have thought boys were attractive too. I've had girlfriends, and for the past about year I've identified as bisexual to my friends. But, I am just so confused whether what my sexuality is. And please, don't say 'don't label yourself yet.' Because, in our society you need labels. Labels to get a s.o. And to even survive I guess. Its sad, but true. I've only been really happy with 1 boy in a relationship. And, I've always been happy with a girl in a relationship. But, I feel guilty. Especially because I have to hide it from my family.Please help..
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reader, OneThousandFridays  +, writes (3 March 2011):
This sounds like bisexual. My best friend had gone through the same feelings until she finally just ignored the urges for both sexes and went on about her business. If she thought a girl was hot, she'd admit it and same thing with boys. Whatever you're sexuality is, it doesn't matter. As long as you stay yourself you'll be happy. C:Good luck from Wednesday!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): you've had girlfriends at 14?
wow.
and it really doesn't matter what you are. just be. just live. just love. whoever whenever.
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reader, Blue_Velvet +, writes (29 January 2011):
 Why hello there,I think you are, bisexual, and young. I come from a lesbian house-hold and I always grew up learning that 'Love is not a gender, it's a person'. Which is how I identify. You are right though, in this day and age we are a society of labels. Do not try to force yourself to be just one thing or the other. (You might also look up the term pansexual, but that isn't really here or there.)Relax, you are doing fine. It is perfectly alright to be attracted to both sexes, but I won't lie to you. It isn't easy being bisexual. (Just don't call yourself a lesbian when your with a chick, and straight when your with a dude, you will get major flack for that, trust me I know....) I like guys just as much as I like girls, but I have never found the lower half of a guy attractive. It doesn't mean that I'm not attracted to men. You are just drawn to both.Have faith in yourself, and if you feel like you need to tell your parents make sure you have a good net of friends around you if you don't think they will react well. I am not saying stay in the closet, only you know what's best for you, but make sure that if you think your parents are going to react really negatively (kick you out of the house, that sort of thing) you have a safety net.Good Luck Sweetie,Blue Velvet
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): heyy im 13 nearly 14 and personally if you are really attracted to girls aswell as boyz then you probz are bi . but dont think ou dont like boys just because you saw porn and saw a mans penis and didnt find it attractive doesnt mean you dont like boys , your young so most likely your not not gonna be sexuially attracted to anything like tht yet . RED LIPZ XX
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reader, JaZminny +, writes (27 January 2011):
 You are so young you don't have to decide your sexuality now I think all you need is some time then all of your sexuality conflictS will clear up on there own anD u will know cleArly wat u are.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 You are only young and sexuality is a fluid and ever changing thing so it is not a shock that you are not 100% sure of what you want. Dont rush in to anything sexual as your young and the best sex is when you are ready.
But still have fun, date people that you like, make or female and just see what and who you like, you maybe bisexual and finding out will be some the best years of your life trust me i wish i could have them again. just dont rush anything be young have fun be safe and most importantly be happy!
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Maybe you are just haven't found out who you are yet. Just have fun! These are some of the greatest times in your life.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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