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writes:My friend broke up with her bf (my best friend too, to make life difficult) in early Jan after 9 months with him. I've liked her for ages, and was there for her to cheer her up but tried to ignore my feelings for her. A couple of weeks later we were chatting on night and admitted to each other how we felt and she said she likes me too.We've been getting on fine for a month or so, always spending time together and really close, but keeping it as secret as possible.We were having fun with each other, snatching moments when others weren't around to talk and kiss, and always happy when we saw each other.The last weekend we were lying in bed and started fooling around with each other, but only played with each other, and didn't go the whole way. She seemed ok afterwards, but now seems distant and like I've upset her.Whenever we talk and I ask her if I have upset her she says that I haven't, but she still seems down and depressed a lot. What do I do? Do I say something and risk upsetting her more and losing her, or do I believe her when she says she's ok, and hope she gets better?Thanks, xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): Instead of any of that, have you tried to cheer her up instead? Come on, this isn't a Yes or No 'problem'. If she has a problem and she doesn't want to tell you, it could be many reasons. One that comes to mind is that she has lingering feelings for her ex. It could be anything. You don't have to find out if she doesn't want to tell you. You also don't have to pretend nothing is wrong. Go do something with her that might help get her mind off of the 'problem'.
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