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female
age
30-35,
*oner
writes:After sending him a really nice email, how i feel about him having a photo of his exwife and her contact details under the name sweetheart on his cellphone. They were married for 2 years and have been devoiced for 2 and half years now, she ran off with another guy in another country. he explained nicely to me that he actually through that photo away and really had no idea how it got back there, he also said that he has changed the name sweetheart to her real name, but due to a hardware problem his phone keeps rebooting and it just changes back, the contact has no real meaning. He also said that he has not really been treating me the way he should be, with respect and like a true princess,i have been the only girl after his ex wife that has shown any kind of an attraction to him, and i helped him to be 'normal' and feel human again. He said he really would like to treat me like a young women and like his friend the way he ought to he also said that his not sure if he could take another responsibility like that again, marriage, his also not sure what our friendship will trun into in the future, if anything will come of it. Im just afraid that he will stop touching me, like pull my ear or pinch my nose, and those smacks he normally gives just incase im naughty, and stop kissing me. We have had sex a few times now and i really feel very happy with him. If he does want to stop all this what should i do, respect his wishes and just wait a few years and see what happens or should i just leave everything? He really does mean the world to and i am yelling to give him as much time as he needs.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Yes you have to respect his wishes. You know the saying : You can drag a horse to the waterhole,but you can not make it drink?". Same goes for the two of you. You can not MAKE him love you.
As for you waiting a few years for him? No. If he is not able to commit to you then you need to move on and so does he. You are still so young. Spending your life waiting for others to make a move is wasted time. Screw the What if's!
IT should not take a person years to make up their mind whether they are ready or not for a relationship. It might take weeks. Maybe take break from each other and see what happens.
Not sure about his excuses about the photo and such but if you believe it I guess that makes it fine.
I'm glad you told him how you feel btw, Good job on that!
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