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writes:Five years ago my boyfriend found out that I was keeping a secret from him. I held the fact that I was doing drugs from him. The hard drugs. It wasn't even 4 months into me using when he found out. He was mad and I don't blame him. It is now 5 years later and my past still follows me. At least 3 times a week he calls me a junkie or tells me to go do drugs, he is constantly screening my calls, emails.. anything he can convinced that he will catch me doing something I shouldn't be doing. He makes me feel so little sometimes but when I tell him he needs to stop he says that I deserve to be treated this way...Do I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): HELL NO! Nobody deserves to be treated like that! As others have said, he is trying to control you. He is belittling you and wearing down your self-esteem.
If you can't get through to him that he is hurting you, then maybe he's doing what he wants to do. Do you really want to be punished for something you did so long ago and for a brief time? As far as I am concerned, name calling is a deal breaker! It is childish and a form of bullying. I wouldn't put up with it!
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reader, Full moon temptress1  +, writes (18 March 2009):
No you don't deserve to be treated this way.You should be congratulated you stopped using.It sounds to me that he may be using this as an excuse to control youreading emails.If he is in the wrong in an arguement it sounds as if he is throwing it in to make you feel bad.Why don't you try at a time when you are getting on ok to sit him down and tell him how hurt you are that he brings it up,that he has found no evidence of you using again.Ask him why he does it,and is it fair that he keeps bringing it up.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i have been drug free now for just about 4 years
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reader, WontGiveUp  +, writes (18 March 2009):
Are you still doing those drugs?
If not then no definitely not. Especially being that long ago. He needs to get over it.
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