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*andabaaby
writes:Ok so I've been dating this boy for about 2 years now, we love having sex. He used to look at me,touch me,kiss me in the wierdest places (palm of my hand) but now he doesnt even look at me, he still loves having sex at me, but he doesnt look at me and his penis doesnt stay hard like it used to. Does this mean that I dont turn him on anymore?? What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, mandabaaby +, writes (8 February 2008):
mandabaaby is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have a naughty police outfit, and handcuffs.. but i think your right. Its his time to dedicate himself to my sexual pleasures, his time to please me. If hes not willing to do that every once in a while then I guess he's going to have to go without sex until he learns and agrees that its not all about him. We are a couple and it does take 2 to tango so why take all the pleasure for himself and not share a little?
he can put on a costume and dance for me lol.
Thanks for the replies I really appreciate
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Hi again,
yeah dancing can be rather silly. but therein lies your problem. He has let you know what is going to really turn him on and you are having trouble doing it.
Now, before you say why should I?, I agree that this problem shouldnt be all about you having to cater to his sexual fancies in order to have a sex life. You are a couple, you both should be working on this. So maybe you should try and reach a compromise, can you do a few moves dressed up in costume (nurse,maid etc ) its easier when you are role playing. Or god forbid, get him to open up to you and agree that sex is important and while you are willing to play a role can it not be something that you both find sexy.
He sounds rather selfish if you ask me. You've only be with each other 2 years - this is not a long time, I can only imagine this is the beginning of your sexual problems if you don't get him to open up and sort this out.
Good luck.
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reader, mandabaaby +, writes (8 February 2008):
mandabaaby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks.. But yes I do have lingerie, I even have toys, I just bought myself a baby doll, he's asked me to dance a few times but I cant get the nerve up to do it, because my confident level is very low, and Im scared he'll make fun of me cuz dancing the way he wants me to dance would be my first time... I dont know what to do...
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (7 February 2008):
Hi,
you guys may have fallen into a routine. Do you have an adventurous sex life? I say this as you guys have been together 2 years so the initial spark has died down and you both know exactly what is coming in the bedroom. I would spice things up, do you have any lingerie? we guys are very visual , having our girl dressed up is a big turn on.
He may be too shy to mention that your sex life is on the slide for fear of hurting you. One of you has to take the bull by the horn ( so to speak:) and spice it up a bit!!
Its a case of staying as you are and maybe growing bored with each other , or having a real go to bring back the spark in the bedroom. It's worth having a go isnt it?
good luck.
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