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writes:Ok so I have a bit of a personal question.. I'm concerned about whether or not I'm supposed to shave my vaginal area? My bf and I have been getting close, and he's tried several times to put his hand down/take off my pants and I haven't let him because I'm worried that he'll get grossed out if there's hair there.. I want to get close to him and I'm afraid if I keep doing this he'll get the wrong idea, so I need to know. Also, I've never, ever shaved down there so I don't know how. What makes things worse is I live in a dorm, so I don't know when/how I'd be able to do it. I know some girls here must, but I feel weird asking them. I'm a virgin and he knows this, so maybe it won't come as a shock to him that I'm unshaved? I personally would rather not shave but I don't want to gross him out. I've had my hand down his pants and I know he also has hair, but it doesn't matter to me and I know guys care a lot more about whether or not a girl is shaved. I'm willing to do it if that's what most guys prefer. We're gonna be intimate again soon and I want to let him get close to me, please help!!!! (sorry about the long question)
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reader, arsdale  +, writes (30 November 2008):
Just keep it neat and tidy, kid. Its all about personal hygene.
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reader, eltapatio +, writes (29 November 2008):
well...im young but i shave lol. but not cause i want to get down. i shave because all my jeans are low riding skinny jeans. ppl dont want to see a bush at the top of my pants lol :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): i dont think it really matters...lol...pft i wouldnt care if my girlfriend had hair down there if we did it...
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reader, Ms.wayne +, writes (26 November 2008):
I completley agree with the anonymous reader about asking him in a unique way just to see what he says. Say something like "I was thinking about going to get a bikini wax but I heard that hurts"! and see what he says, he might say thats hot! or you should! that way you will know your answer. Different menlike different things. I once dated a guy who wanted me to let my hair grow down there because he likes a bush. I had to tell him no and kept shaving lol
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (26 November 2008):
 From an older perspective, I think you might be missing the point. Sex is all about trust. If you are thinking that he is going to go tell all his friends how untidy you are not to have shaved Then you don't trust him enough to get naked with him. you are contemplating baring more than your skin to him but rather baring your soul. It seems to me that we are in too much of a hurry to share it all and open ourselves up to getting hurt. jut something for you to think about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): I started shaving down there because I noticed that majority of guys like when there is no hair. I know, they don't shave themselves, but they prefer not to see hair on a woman. I like it now, you have to get used to it, yes, it itches a little after it starts to grow in a beginning, but then your skin gets used to sensation, and you really don't notice.
I can tell you that I was even told few times by guys that it would be better if there was no hair. But that's my personal experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): Hair removing cream (especially for that area) is ok around the edges to get things neater and then just trim the hair - but try the cream elsewhere to test for a reaction. Shaving is horrible! Its so itchy - I think that would be more off putting. Just as an aside but still relevant when I first met my boyfriend he shaved the hair off his chest thinking women preferred it like that. It was so prickly to lie on so I told him and he grew the hair back - what a relief that was. I guess what I'm saying is that we all like differnt things.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (26 November 2008):
i think alot of guys prefer a little hair. it seems that older guys prefer shaven. god knows why. but you do whatever you feel comfortable with. i say keep it! i've tried shaven before and it just itches alot. cold too. lol
maybe just tidy yourself up.
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reader, xxaziexx +, writes (26 November 2008):
 different men like different things, but if you dont want to shave it might be an idea to at least trim! its cleaner, a bikini wax would be a good idea asits very femanine and tidy.if this guy really likes you he will respect whatever you decide to do with yourself good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): Dear Poster
It really is a matter of personal choice rather then the norm; personally I suggest a bikini wax is always neat and keep the rest of the hair slightly trimmed.
Best wishes and lots of smiles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): Girlfriend, if you feel comfortable unshaved rather not to because is all about hair or whatsoever, from my knowledge and readings only 12.5% men prefer their partners to shave and the rest do not mind, my advice to you is that you ask your boyfried in a unique way that when you gonna find out what he prefers.... good luck with that..... what do you prefer with your man?
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