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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:A girl that I have liked for some time and I finally met up again last summer and hit it off immediately. We began talking and were going places. Throughout the course of the year we began to talk nightly on the phone for maybe 2 or 3 hours at a time and all was great. I thought she was beautiful and completely was at ease with her. She really seemed to like me and I was almost central to her world, I could suggest we go to the moon and she would go at the drop of a hat. All her friends were trying to tell me that she liked me but she is a shy girl and I was afraid to act. This summer she seems constantly busy and we haven't had the same level of contact we had before at all. We used to go to the cinema and nights out and that just because and we almost unofficially accepted that we were an item but now I feel flat footed around her as if I have crashed down from a pedestal and she sees through me. What do I do? Am I just overthinking this and she really is busy or do I need to try and regain her interest? Is there anything you guys would suggest to get us back to where we were and rekindle that feeling?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (15 August 2012):
Hi there. It's probably not that she has lost interest in you, so much as the fact that her life has simply become much more busy this summer, than last.
She is also one year older, and a little bit more mature than last year.
So it could also be, that she is doing a bit more socializing with her friends this year, being one year older.
The best approach is to just give her a call, and ask her out.
Be upfront and create your own opportunities.
You might be thinking of yourself as having been up on a some high pedestal, although the truth is you were always both equal.
It might have just been your perception of it, that's all.
It is now simply a case of changed circumstances, that's all.
It's not the end of you being able to ask her out anymore.
It's more that she doesn't seem to have so much free time on her hands, as she did previously.
That's no reason to give up on her though, is it?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Shy is shy and you are unsure about what to do. I think you need to be honest with her. It has been a long time you both have been seeing each other and it is time just to be clear and simple with her, tell her you like her and ask her to be your girlfriend. At least you will know where you stand and she will know you have been serious about her this whole time.
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