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*hatguy84
writes:Heres my story,I have known this girl my whole life, shes lived down the street from me, we have always liked each other and finally started talking at a party she came to at my house about 5 years ago. We had a great first 6 months and then I deployed with the Marines to Iraq and she waited faithfully. I met another girl and broke my girlfriends heart, it was a 1 month deal no sex or anything, though she eventually took me back, I learned my lesson although it still hurt my girlfriend very bad. We talked it out and made things work and become normal again over the next 2 years, then I deploy to Iraq again ans she waited faithfully againa nd was a great gf, constant support. I returned home from this deployment about 5 months ago and we had a great couple months. I then started spending more time with my friends drinking and trying to drink my Iraq stress away and kind of ignored her feelings although i still spent time with her. Well a month ago she calls and breaks up with me, i try and reason with her, i quit drinking and everything, i send her flowers, handwritten letters, she just says stop doing that stuff. A couple weeks ago she started dating one of her brothers friends and she says he makes her happy and treats her really good and that I need to move on. I really love and care for her and I regret the mistakes I made. Is it too late? I know I let her down but is there any way to get her back or do I need to let her "rebound" relationship run its course?
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reader, thatguy84 +, writes (17 May 2009):
thatguy84 is verified as being by the original poster of the question the new girl isnt my girlfriend we re just dating, you are very right, i told the new girl i still love my ex and she knows nothing serious will come of this, so its not like I am lieing to her. she knows all about the situation Im in and she chooses to just want to keep dating. thanks for the advice keep it coming.
new info: right after we broke up she tells her friends shes still in love with me....
she then meets this new guy and i personally ask her if she still loves me and she tells me she fell out of love with me a long time ago???
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): your ex is in a rebound relationship, you say you love her but you cheated on her previously but now also has a new gf. what next? you will use your new gf until your old gf realises she is in love with you and wamts you back. surely you cannot destroy this new girls life. she is an innocent pawn while you sort out the ex. what have you learnt in life. nothing it seems if you are just using the new girl. plse grow up and act like an adult.
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reader, thatguy84 +, writes (14 May 2009):
thatguy84 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso its a waiting game it sounds like, the sad thing is I have a new girlfriend already too, she came to me right after the ex dumped me, and is a very attractive girl and i cant use her as a rebound as much as i want to use her, i dont want to hurt her. i would love to know how my ex can have "feelings" for this new guy after only a monthof knowing him where its not even a possibility in my shoes
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Look man it's like this. You have to have patience now and the willpower to stop contacting her. If you've already played all the normal cards of trying to get her back then stop. You just have to wait it out and see what happens. Trust me. I wish somebody would have told me this two months ago. Anything you do will have the opposite effect now.
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reader, slen  +, writes (13 May 2009):
 let her go, if she still love's you she will come back but if she thinks you are tryin to destroy the happiness she is feeling not she will resent you even more.... if its ment to be she will come... hope this helps good luck xx
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