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writes:can i get married to my boyfriend with out parental concent without getting pregnant?or do i have to be pregnant?help me i want to marry my boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): i am 17 and i live with my fiancee we have our own place and we manage to pay bill food etc and we are happy, my parents dont agree with us getting married and i am looking or an anawer to the same thing but if you reli love him and want to get married the just hold on to the love you have and wait till you are 18 that way u can do it ur self, and ur love for each other would have grown. but if your not living with ur partner then i suggest living with him first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): It all depends on the laws in your part of the world.
At your age, most likely parental consent will be needed.
But go to a solicitor or even research the laws yourself.
But remember, only fools rush in. I have no issue with teenage marriage, it's worked in the past and it will work in the future. But society has changed now. A hundred years ago if you weren't already marrying and preparing to have and raise kids by your age then you were an outcast.
These days the outcasts are one's who marry and concieve young.
Being young doesn't mean you won't be a good mother, plenty of fathers and mothers have done the same thing and turned out okay.
Marriage is a good thing. A wonderful thing. But too often these days it's entered into lightly and the result is divorce. And Divorce helps no one.
So think long and hard and ask yourself if you are ready to make the jump to adult life so early.
If you are. If you can. If you have every road to provide for the child and have the support of your family, then all the more power to you.
If you hesistate. If you want to persue other things. Then leave the maternal instincts alone for now. And come back in a few years when you have things sorted.
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reader, Sandoval +, writes (6 October 2008):
Hi there.....I want you to know that with the expirience I have I really hope to be able to help you. I understand what your saying, because I went thru the same thing.
But I do suggest that you talk to your parents and tell them what you feel..... Open your hearts out to them and tell them that you are in love with this guy. You are quite young but if this is what you want well, let them know this. DONT get pregnant! just so they can allow you to marry him. If they dont wont approave of this its better if you do this the rite way. Atleast you already told them how you feel and if they dont approave let them know you guys are wanting to get married. If they dont agree altleast you already told them and you guys can get married but without a need of having a pregnancy as an excuse.....Use your love as your reason for getting married. But I would really want you to know that its very important for you to finish your education....Im now a single mother of a eight year old little boy and I have struggled and I would really hate to see you go through a struggle like I have. Maybe your parents want this for you also. Have you guys thought about this???? Without an education your future can be difficult......I wish you guyz the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): if you are not of age... you have to have parental concent. Besides.. if you are too young to get married by yourself... what makes you think that 2 teenagers can make it in life and actually get by with rent (b/c more than likely you won't be living in a house.), all of the utility bills(electric, water, phone, television. etc.), plus, buying all of the essentials(soap,shampoo, laundry/dish detergent, FOOD!) that's just a few...
So..Why, do you want to get married at 16-17 years old? You don't even know what you want out of life yet. Think about it this way... if you get married at such a young age there is a high chance that you will get a divorce. If he's the right guy for you, he will wait until you are old enough!
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reader, SpeedyCakey  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 Well, first: YES, you 100% need parental consent!! Your parents raised you for your whole life, so they gotta know something like that. Tell them that you want to marry your boyfriend, and why, and all the reasons and why you're serious about it.
Second: Don't get pregnant, PLEASE _. It's best to get pregnant a couple years after getting married to get used to living with your boyfriend and to doing chores around the house so you'll have time for the future baby. The worst thing is to rush.
Third: Have you given this a lot of thought? Marriage is a big thing that will effect your entire life. Be serious, and think clearly about it. Of course you want to spend your whole life with your boyfriend, so make sure that he puts a lot of thought into it, too.
Bye!
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