A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've broken up with my bf a few months ago because I felt that I didn't love him as much as he deserved. Even though we didn't ever fight or there were no other problems... And strangely I haven't felt very sad after it either. Now the problem is that my female best friend has admitted she has feelings for me, and I've also thought of her as attractive even before my breakup. So at first it was nice to discover that, but after her first relationship with a girl, she was certain that it wasn't what she was looking for, so she decided to try and get rid of these feelings she has for me.Which didn't work... by now it seems it's actually become worse. Somewhere along the line we've also become quite physically close, hugging before bed and the like. When we talked about our feelings and relationships, we came to the conclusion that we don't want to risk losing the friendship we have now by trying out being in a relationship. But this seems to become harder and harder, and I just can't figure out if I really love her or just like the affection she gives me... Nonetheless, she's all I can think of. It makes me happy to get texts from her or chat with her and be with her... I've thought of us as lovers, and though it would be all new for me, I don't dislike the idea at all. It seems true that a friendship changes after a relationship, and I'm scared... scared of losing her, scared that I will be the one to ruin everything even though she's still trying to ignore her feelings. Any idea/experiences of this kind? I'm just so confused...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): how long have you known this friend?because if she genuinly cares about you and u care about her i see nothing wrong with it just go and ask if shed like to try but dont do anything serious just go to the movies or to eat somewhere to talkabout it
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