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writes:6 months ago I came out of a 3 year relationship. He was my childhood sweetheart. We've broken up before for a year but got back together. We broke up because it wasn't the same anymore because we kept arguing. 6 months on I've had several relationships, none of which compare. I am in one at the moment and I'm crazy about him, my problem is that he is exactly like my sweetheart. Do I like him for who he is or because he's like my ex? My ex has been awful to me since we split and started dating someone two weeks after. I know I still have feelings for him, what should I do!!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (1 March 2007):
 You really need some time on your own to get your head together. You're still only young and to have had a relationship for so long at your age is unusual. You need to find out what it's like to just be you, to enjoy your own company and not need someone else there to fall back on. People who are in relationships from a young age forget what it's like to be on their own and would rather be unhappy with someone than alone.
I don't know whether you really like this guy or not, only time will tell. If you're not sure, you can't string him along so spend the time on your own and things will start to become clear. I understand you have feelings for your ex, it was a long relationship for such a young woman, but these will fade once you start to move forward with your life and get some independence back. Surely the way he's been acting lately has shown you who he really is?
You're only young and need some time alone with friends and really finding yourself again. I know I keep saying this but it's really important, you don't want to look back and regret spending your entire teenage years with some guy instead of enjoying them with mates and family. By all means, if you really like them, have a boyfriend, but I have a suspicion that once you've been on your own for a while and you see how much fun you can have and how free you feel, you won't want a guy.
Good luck
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (1 March 2007):
 You have got to forget your ex and think about your bf now. You are comparing him to your ex and even though you may not mean to,you are.
Just enjoy what you have now and think about your future with this bloke. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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