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writes:Hi, i am 14 years old and my boy friend is 16. in his car one night and he pulled out a condom and asked me if i was ready and i didnt want to look like a baby so i said yes, when i was not really at all. while we were having sex the condom broke and i felt it, it hurt. i told him to stop but he didnt. now i am 14 and pregnant my boyfriend said he is very sorry and it will never happen again. but i dont know if i can trust him. i need to no what to do about me being pregnant and wat to do about nick my boy friend? if i keep the baby do i keep him out of my life???? i need help. please :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Your in a tough situation. The first thing I'd tell you as a fellow 14 year old is that my heart goes out to you and any other person our age faced with any kind of difficult situation. First I'd like to address the issue of your boyfriend. Sure you agreed, but he should have stopped, in my opinion, if he was responsible or really cared about what happened to you he would have stopped instead going though with his 6 seconds of pleasure in exchange for your 9 months of challenges.
Secondly, you have two choices. You could have an abortion and try to put this all behind you, but I guarantee if you do that you'll have regrets. You'll never know what that kid (boy or girl) could have been. I myself am pro life, I however believe everyone should be given the chance to make there own decision, I just know i'd choose to let a kid live, after all they didn't exactly ask for what happened to go through. I just think every person ever conceived should have the chance you had and have to let popsicle juice run down there chin as it melts in July. Or to experience the smell of a brand new box of Crayola Crayons as they hit the page of race car coloring book. But it's not about what I or others believe. It's about you, and what's best for you. If your just 14 then your probably not ready to be anybody's mom. And as Juno taught us, someone somewhere who'll never be able to "pop one out the oven" is willing to adopt. Some people even pay for it. So think about it. It's all in what best for your beliefs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Hey ya
You can not go through this alone, you need to have an adult with you that can help you go through all of the choices that you have. Your mom or dad may first of all be upset, but do you have a good relationship with them? If so, no matter how hard it seems, you must tell them what has happened.
If you have issues with your parents then is there a close teacher, or some other adult in your life? Someone who you know is trustworthy and can help you through this?
Sharing this with an adult will make your problem easier to deal with. You will be able to make any choices you have easier. If you decide to keep the baby, unless there is any serious reason why the father shouldn't be involved then you should encourage him as much as possible, as a baby needs a father figure in his life, and bringing up a child without the other parent is a very difficult experience that affects both mom and child.
Talk to an adult that you know can help you deal with this, take care and stay strong - it will all get easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Hi, i am 14 and i have a boy friend who is 16. well i am pregnant cause when i was haveing sex for the first time ever the condome broke and i got pregnant. well when i found out i was he was talking about keeping it and i dont no wat to do i dont want to kill it. but if i go through labor i wouldnt want to gve it up. but im NOT ready to have a baby. i dont no wat to do i dont want to hurt my boyfriend by haveing to get an abortation but i dont want to have labor eather.wat do i do?????
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reader, bab4life18 +, writes (24 November 2008):
 wow thats terrible. first of all when you told the boy to stop he should have done just that.I would say if you keep the baby yes keep him in your life cause he needs to help take care of the child he helped create. have you told your parents that you are pregnant? if not you should tell them before you are to far along to think of any other options. I usually dont believe in abortions but that is something to think about. You are only 14 and cant even take care of yourself so i would really advise you to think about abortion or even adoption unless you have the greatest parents in the world who will take care of this child for you. Good Luck in what ever decision you make
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