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writes:I need help. My situation is difficult for me. I have a boyfriend whom i've been with for 4 years and we have a son. 1 year out of those 4 years he was locked up. when he got out i didnt care for him. i really dont know accually because when i know i did something wrong to him or faught with him for no reason i seem to care, when he was about to leave when i kicked him out of my house i didnt want him to go. sometimes i feel like i'm in love with him but sometimes i feel like a want to be alone even if we didnt get into a fight at that time. it makes me mad when people talk bad things about him. but yet sometimes i dont care. i'm so confused. Do i care for him or not? do i want to be with him or not. Am I in Love with him or do i just love him for the fact that he's my son's dad? We dont really have sexual relationships because i never feel like it. I dont know why. I try to put it in my head that i do want to have sex but i dont. Does he not turn me on? Please help me. He dont work but he's going to school for his GED. Do I just want someone who is going to pay for me when we go out? What's getting into me? Reply to this Question
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reader, maria14r +, writes (8 April 2008):
maria14r is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much. i really hope i get through this too. your answer was so helpful. i also forgot to mention that he got locked up 2 week after our son was born and that upseted me. He was there for exactly 1 year and 4 months so he missed his first everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Hi Hunny
You just want stability in your life, You were left alone when he was inside and your probably subconsciously still angry at been left alone hunny, You must care about him to be so protective, The reason also you may want to be alone is because you were alone for a year and you had to get on with it and got into a routine...Its a catch 22 thats why your all confused. You need to get you back some self esteem to make you strong and care about how you are feeling about all thats gone on..Once you feel stronger you will be able to cope better with the situation and understand whats happening love...
http://www.thinkrightnow.com/audios/audioesteem.asp?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Google-Self-Esteem-self%2Besteem
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
The sex will come when you have worked on your happiness learning to love yourself first sweetheart then you can make decitions alot easier...
There are two links hunny that I hope will help you understand yourself better not all of it will apply but have a read and I do hope you feel better real soon WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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