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writes:I am a 27 year old South African young lady who started dating a French guy last year in March.Our relationship was as perfect as one could get,Great friendship and great sex life as well.our communication was fantastic and we allowed each other to be who we are without asking nor expecting the other to change.8 months into our relationship he broke up with me, his reason being that he's afraid of commitment and he wasn't sure he was able of committing.i was furious and confused but i let him go. we got back together 4 weeks later only to break up again 2 weeks after getting back together due to the same reason, his fear of commitment.since then we got back together and broke up again 2 more times until i ended it completely in December. 2 weeks ago i discovered that i am pregnant with his child.i'm not sure what to do, i know that he is not ready to be a father, he isn't even ready to commit to a long term relationship yet.what do i do?do i have this child without him or is there a chance that he might come around and conquer his fear of commitment?i am prepared to raise the child on my own and forget about the relationship we can't seem to stay away from each other for too long.Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2015): Oh wow. I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm a huge believer of what doesn't kill us, just makes us stronger and wiser.
Back to your question. A child is a blessing so please have it and be happy about it. Do not expect him to be in a commitment relationship with him because he CLEARLY has issues. Raise your child on your own and be the best mother you can be. I am sending you all the luck and love in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2015): As a partner*
Sorry for the typo
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2015): Have the child without him.
Expect him to be there for his son but not to be there asylum partner.
Expect more and you will be disappointed.
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