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writes:Can you all shed some light here on this ? Once I happened to casually look at my husbands computer screen and found out that a girl was sending him intimate forwarded mails which he saved. He lied and said that it was one of his guy friends mails. We had a big argument for this and I caught him; telling lies all the time. I never ever went into his mails before now I do becasuse I don't trust him. He delets all his bulk, trash and sent mails now so I cannot find anything. Do you all think that he has something to hide by deleting these things ???? I just want to know if I may have something to worry about or to investigate here. Thanks to all of you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Thanks guys for your advise
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Casually looked into your husband's saved emails file? Doesn't that require a bit of clicking? And I don't think someone is going to walk away from a computer with all that evidence on it when his wife lives in the same house, and where she can plop down in front of his computer at any time.
Baby Duck is right. Neither of you trusts the other. He got mad at you for looking in his email- understandable. He decides to then take away your resources and deletes everything before you can see it; his vengeance. Now you're having a temper tantrum because you can't read anything he receives, so it increases your jealousy and makes you think he's cheating on you. Sounds a little high school, huh?
There could be several reasons this has happened. He may be feeling a little starved for attention at home, so now he's looking for that attention in other places. It's probably just innocent emails and he has no intention of ever meeting this person face to face. It's like going into a chat room and flirting up a storm with all the girls, and then when you feel all macho and like "The Man", you leave and never talk to any of those women again.
I am in no way of placing the blame on you, but maybe it would be a good idea to let it all go, and then start telling your husband how much you love him more often and that you admire him, etc. It might curb his desire to find that ego boost from other sources.
Marriage counseling would be a good idea for the trust issues. I wouldn't get any more angry at the situation or berate him for his behavior. He's probably embarrassed enough.
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