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anonymous
writes:My bf and I had just gotten to our 5 months when he had an emotional affair with a new female friend. Now all I ask is if he could tell me when he goes out with friends and I would do the same. Well during that whole period I found out he went with another female friend to visit her grandparents an hour away. I thought it was weird, but we had only really begun dating. The day before valentines day he went again with her to her grandparents home. I was not fine with it but relented because that had been friends longer than our now 1 1/2 year relationship. On valentines day he referred to this friends grandmother as 'grandmother'. I thought that was weird. He won't even try to get to know my grandparents. He says he doesn't know what to say to them. My question is... Do I have a right to feel wierd about this? I also have never met his female friend. Her bf feels threatened by my bf. Why didn't she take her bf? Also, how do they introduce him? Wouldn't it be weird to say I want you to meet my old friend from college but not my bf? I just find it an uncomfortable situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, he has only met her grandparents twice and he helps buy her father's Christmas gifts. She lives an hour away and he seems to see her when I'm at work.
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reader, sha9991  +, writes (19 February 2011):
Hi,
I would find this weird too! I think things would be better if you meet her so you can clear the air,and find out more about her and see if she is a threat or they are just really close friends only? I would talk to him about meeting his friend with him one time and see what he says? If he says no,that's not a good sign! Then asked why not if you are just friends? You are his gfriend at the end of the day! Valentine's day is only for your partner not mates,unless there's more than friendship there maybe?
The Grandparent thing is he must have a close bond with his friend's Grandparents,he could get that in time with yours aswell overtime too,make him meet them,I guess he hasn't not got any of his own then?
I hope I have helped? All the best. :)
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